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This bit of humour comes from Buzzfeed, but many guys would call it 100% accurate. Women may call them jerks but they still go for them anyway. If women didn’t show interest, these guys wind be forced to stop acting so nasty to have sex. Do women force nice guys into last place?

A fair number of young males are just as frustrated in their search to find meaningful relationships. One of my clients said that when he went to college and acted like the great guy he really is, he got nowhere with the opposite sex. Not until he assumed the identity of self-centred egomaniac did he start scoring points with women

This post is dedicated to undiscerning women everywhere, guilty of sending men the message that they must be cruel and uncaring in order to get anywhere with them. You know who you are. Do you know why you do it? I have encountered many fantastic women who got blindsided by a bad boy once or twice. Butg after that, you have a lot to answer for.

The British have a saying: ”Be mean, keep ‘em keen.” Why are we shooting ourselves in the foot time and again?

The most common reasons why women date guys who treat them poorly:

Jerks have many qualities that are attractive to women.

There’s the mystery surrounding a troubled soul or an enigmatic rebel.
They exude confidence, though upon closer inspection it is really arrogance.
They are extraverts.
They have a lot of charm, i.e. player skills.
They appear passionate. Usually, they are most passionate about fulfilling their own needs.
Their intense pursuit is flattering and makes women feel special and desirable.

It’s a challenge.

Women feel that any love worth having should be earned first.
They enjoy outplaying a guy (or trying to) at his own game.
Jerks keep us guessing; we can’t decipher them.
On the flip side, nice guys are boring and predictable.

Women have a “fixer-upper” complex.

They look into a guy’s soul and see more than he is showing of himself, and they become hooked on the idea of getting him to open up.
A flawed man gives this type of woman someone to work on and mold. They wind up viewing the jerk as someone who is misunderstood and unloved, a lurking lonely soul.

It’s emotional.

Women feel excited, disappointed, and confused. The rush of emotions is exciting and addictive.
The process inevitably follows this pattern:

1. Jerk shows interest.
2. When woman returns interest, jerk draws back and appears nonchalant.
3. Jerk waits until woman is confused, then provides attention.
4. Repeat.

Weak women attract jerks.

A jerk never wastes his time on a woman he knows respects herself. He preys on the vulnerable.
It requires two parties with low self-esteem. The jerk uses a bad boy demeanor as his cover. His snide remarks and sarcasm are defense mechanisms.

Selfish women choose jerks.

They are just as shallow, prioritizing pursuit and excitement over a real connection.

Women subconsciously replicate their childhoods.

If a key male figure in your life was a jerk, you will invariably seek out jerks for relationships as an adult.

Dating a jerk is the best way to avoid a long-term relationship.

Until you are ready to settle down with a decent man to start a family, why not have fun with a jerk? Maybe even be a jerk?

It’s a vicious cycle.

Women are attracted to jerks, form relationships with them, and then try to justify their choice by seeing things in them that nobody else can.

Do these reasons ring true or is something else going on?
Carole Lieberman, MD, co-author of Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them, and When to Leave Them says:

“They can be unpredictable, dishonest, or downright mean, but scoundrels have always had an undeniable appeal to us–an erotic edge of danger that’s hard to resist.”

As long as women choose jerks, some decent men may convert to jerkdom, especially if they’ve been dumped for a jerk. Nice guys who admit to employing this strategy don’t like it much; they say it’s exhausting to act like a jerk all the time.

So, ladies, why not give that decent guy you know a break? Look deeper. Don’t settle. Respect yourself. Every Goddess on earth will thank you for it.

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