Thanks again, Dakini for sharing your skill, warmth and knowledge with me in such a delightful way.
I will visit you again for another session the next opportunity I have to come to your city. I would love to spend even longer with you next time if that works for you.
After meeting you, I now know a longer session would leave me with even greater positive feelings.
Your new devotee,
Fred, Toronto
Oddly enough, my new-age type business colleague first introduced me to a book on Tantra. I didn’t really have any sex problems but I was very curious about this idea of multiple orgasms for men. I liked what I read but was nervous about trying it with a new woman. I tried it was with a partner who had also read the book, but I felt awkward. I knew how to do the dance steps but I didn’t have the rhythm or flow of the dance. Once I started seeing Dakini Bliss, the Goddess took me into the dance and I experienced first-hand what the book discussed. Four weeks laters, I’m practicing tantra with my girlfriend…it’s awesome. I feel blessed to have discovered these these lovemaking skills at the age of 28. Most other guys my age are still in the jump-on/jump-off mode! Not me…I love taking my time int he tantric way.
Published: 9 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
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Published: 11 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
TANTRIC TOUCH REVIEWS & TESTIMONIALS
Alex (32) Toronto
Doing a psychology degree with a major in sexology I thought Tantra would be an interesting topic for a research paper. To prepare, I read tons of highly regarded Tantra books and decided to do some private hands-on sessions to learn more. I booked some individual sessions with Dakini, the Tantric sex coach. A practical session is so different from reading about it in books! I got a taste of what I tantra is all about, the potential of the transformational energy. The sessions were such beautiful intense experiences where I got to see just how more there was Tantra than I had ever imagined It was an eye-opening experience! My girlfriend and I now practice tantra regularly and our relationship has become much closer…plus the sex rocks!
Guy (43) Montreal
I’ve been divorced for 3 years after an unhappy 12-year marriage. I thought it was high time that I found out more about tantra. After my session with goddess Genna, learnt so much. It’s amazing just how much we men have missed out on our sexual education. Dakini introduced me to the tantric sex skills and put them in a practical language that I could understand and apply in real life. Great stuff!
Jesse (45)
I’d heard the word Tantra but I really didn’t know much about it, I just kind of inquired out of interest. Dakini’s explanation was straightforward and easy to understand. She explained there was no physical intercourse but that I’d definitely get the experience and learn enough to be able to use the skills while making love with another woman. I couldn’t quite understand how that could happen without intercourse but decided to try it anyway. I ended up doing the master program and I had experiences of pleasure I’d never felt before. The sexual energy I felt in myself and radiating from the goddess was incredible. The next woman I made love to, knew nothing of Tantra, I didn’t even mention it but she certainly got the experience; she said she had never felt so good with a man. I wish I’d discovered this when I was younger.
Mark (37)
I had premature ejaculation for a number of years and my first wife was always criticizing me about it. It made me feel terribly embarrassed. We finally split up but the problem arose again every time I met a woman who I really liked. It reach a point where I was afraid of getting into bed her. These sessions with the Goddess have been literally life transforming. I didn’t realize just how deeply hurt I was inside.
In the sessions, she provided me with was a lot of much needed nurturing, intimacy and sexual healing before even addressing any control techniques. She built trust and confidence in me and helped open my heart again.
The skills of thought, breath, muscle release and taking the passionate intense sexual energy I felt in my genitals to the warm love I felt in my heart were the ticket for me. By our 4th session, I managed to sexually peak 5 or 6 times in 30 minutes without losing control. I feel that I’m a more skilled and more confident lover now, not only physically but on many levels. I know now how to turn sex into making love. Although I hated having this problem when it happened, I’m happy led me to discover these unforgettable tantric experiences I would never have known about.
Jeremy (24)
I am a professional dancer and my salsa teacher introduced me to a book on Tantra. I didn’t have any sex problems I was just interested in what it was about. I liked what I read but was nervous about trying it with a new woman. I didn’t want ‘to blow it’ so to speak. The first time I tried it was with a woman who had also read the book, but it felt awkward. It’s akin to dancing Salsa from a book …you do the steps but you don’t have the rhythm or flow of the dance. Once I started seeing Dakini Bliss, the Goddess took me into the dance and I experienced first-hand what was talked about in the book. After four weeks I’m doing it with my current girlfriend…it’s fantastic. I feel so good about knowing these lovemaking skills. It’s what I do when I make love now. I feel different from other guys my age who are still in the rushed mode. By the way, every woman I’ve tried Tantra with loves it!
Pierre (55)
My wife doesn’t want sex as much as I do. In fact, I try to do without it for weeks on end at times. But I consider myself still young and I don’t want to lose that part of my life. I’d been to see a couple of GFE escort girls, but it’s not really at all what I wanted. It’s just physical relief; they don’t know to really connect with you or teach you anything about being a better lover.And I don’t expect them to…it’s not their job. I knew that I need a lot more than what they could offer.
Then I came across Dakini’s website. The Goddess was not only beautiful,she was also mature, well-educated woman who knew how to treat a man. She taught me how to take these practices back to my wife to help to revitalise her interest in sex. I really didn’t know what to expect but my experience with the Goddess and the knowledge she shared with me has been invaluable. Dakini is a true gem!
Anton (37)
I suppose you could call me a a “New Age” kind of guy. I have been practicing yoga for 10 years and read books on Tantra, Mantak Chia, Margo Anand and the Karma Sutra. I’ve introduced some of these practices to my female partner but I always felt as if I was leading her, she loves it. I know from my readings that Sacred Sex was originally practiced by women and taught to men. In fact some of the best Tantra teachers I met were introduced to it through a woman. These women are referred to as Dakini or Yogini of sexual loving. I wanted to experience what it would be like to be with a woman skilled in the arts of the Sensual Goddess. I don’t think many men would have had that experience. I’m happy I took the step. A lot of the practices I had been doing before, involved control of my sexual energies and pleasing my partner without fully enjoying the pleasure I was feeling. The Tantra Goddess sessions taught me to surrender into the sacred space of the Goddess. In fact, it’s changed my whole way of loving a woman.
Donald (31) Brockville
I’ve always been fascinated by human sexuality, which was starting to turn into a liability because for the last several years sex was constantly on my mind… 100% of the time. It affected how I reacted to everyone at work and at home. It was becoming a real obsession. I did three sessions with Dakini who guided me through the breathing, sound and muscle control practices. The sessions had a huge impact on me. I started to really connect my sexuality with my heart feelings. It was a huge breakthrough…Now I feel rebalanced. Now three months later I still feel ‘whole’ and thoughts of sex not longer totally flood my life. I feel more confident and connected in myself.
Andrea (43)
I separated from my husband 3 years ago and eventually started dating a few men again that I met online. I quickly became disillusioned about these new relationships. Physcially, the sex was okay I guess but I craved the emotional/spiritual aspects of a deep, loving experience. I had battled issues over the years regarding early childhood abuse but didn’t understand just how much it affected me in the intimacy department. So, I didn’t know how to initiate an emotional intimate relationship with a man but after a couple of sessions hour with Dakini, who was so sensitive and knowledgeable regarding these matters, I found the answers I had been seeking. What a generous Goddess! I felt safe enough to open my heart again and give and receive pleasure.
teacher who commands respect and love. To be taught like this is a very rare and precious gift to receive.”
Published: 12 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Feeling down, Depressed, Low energy, irritable?
Want to revive your marriage or finally inish that project?
Have an Orgasm!
Free, fun and healthy, the act of Orgasm restores you to your authentic self.
The Orgasm is a magic bullet, the multi-dimensional panacea that revives every part of your life.
In fact, 5,000 years ago, in ancient Taoist China, when you visited your physician, he would give you a prescription based upon your condition. For instance, a woman with deficient kidneys would be given an acupuncture treatment, a pot of herbs to cook up, and told to go home and have sex 3 times daily, in reverse cowgirl position, for 30 days. That particular angle (exposing the kidneys) brought direct healing sexual chi to the area.
In my work as a dakini and intimacy coach, I always prescribe orgasm therapy.
“Make it a daily supplement. Enjoy knowing how healthy and well balanced you are making yourself,” I tell my clients.
10 Great reasons to boost your Orgasm Quotient
1. Orgasm is a powerful stress-reliever. During climax, you release loads of oxytocin, making you feel sociable, content, safe and relaxed. Indeed, oxytocin is the natural antidote to stress hormones in the body.
2. Orgasms will save your marriage! What is the key difference between your intimate relationship and your other relationships? You are having sex with that person! Sex is the glue. Prioritize it and give it some much deserved attention. It will give back…many times over.
3. Anti-aging. People having more sex add years to their lifespan. Dr. Oz touts a 200 orgasms per year guideline to add 6 chronological years to your life.
4. Unleash your creative genius. Sexual energy is creative energy. Revving it up is a powerful way to summon your inner muse.
5. It’s good for you heart. According to scientific data, 3 plus orgasms weekly definitely can reduce your risk of heart attack and stroke by 50% and lower your risk of heart disease and high blood pressure.
Your emotional heart will benefit too: Sex strengthens your bond with your partner. Oxytocin, released during orgasm, serves to promote bonding, by deepening your sense of connection with each other.
6. Boosts your immune system. Feel a chill or a sore throat coming on? Indulge your passions and have an orgasm! A recent study showed that people having sex once or twice a week had a 30% increase in immunoglobulin A, which strengthens immunity.
7. Orgasm recalibrates you. It brings you back to yourself. The French term “la petite mort” (little death) alludes to the notion of death and rebirth via sexual climax. We need a place to come undone, so we can return to daily life feeling rejuvenated and stronger.
8. Pain relief. When you have a headache, Have Sex! The endorphin release can actually relieve up to 70% of your pain symptoms. Headaches and menstrual cramps are greatly reduced.
9. Sexercise. A vigorous session will burn calories. How much depends on how vigorous; i.e., a gentle Hatha class to a rollicking Vinyasa flow. Beyond that, sex and orgasm strengthen oft neglected internal core muscles that keep you supple.
10. Orgasms enhance your ability to attract sexual partners. From the pheromones you emit, which make you more attractive, to the estrogen produced, making hair shiny and skin smooth, well-sexed people simply radiate inner and outer beauty. They give off a certain magnetism, the afterglow of good loving, which they exude for days afterward.
About Dakini Bliss
The Goddess Dakini Bliss is on a mission to illuminate the direct, profound connection between ravishing sex and a thriving life. As a Life and Intimacy Coach, she has propelled thousands into a higher stratosphere of intimacy, sensuality and creativity. With a spiritual synthesis of Taoism, Tantra, Transpersonal psychology, philosophy and 20 years of coaching, she brings a unique fusion of wit, wisdom, and orgasmic inspiration. Her musings on love, life and sex have graced the pages of Tantric websites with audiences ranging from 50K to 5 million. With her first e-book coming out in 2013, Dakini’s intention is to touch minds, hearts—and other areas—by the millions. Explore her exquisite Ottawa retreat and 1-on-1 offerings, at htttp://www.thetantrictouch.com
Published: 15 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
What constitutes sexual compatibility?
In a nutshell, it relates to sexual preferences, likes and dislikes, religion, and cultural and familial expression of sexual love that influence our sexual attitudes.
All of these factor in when examining the issue of creating longterm sexual compatibility.
Good sex is vital in maintaining a healthy, happy relationship.
Have ever experienced being with a partner with whom you felt no chemistry, where your energy levels did not match, or where your partner was an unskilled lover?
To better explore sexual compatibility, familiarize yourself with your own sexual preferences.
Start writing down what you like and dislike sexually.
Do NOT be shy here.
Pinpoint any areas you may have overlooked before to reveal what makes YOU tick in bed.
In Tantra, sexual awareness means you can fully and confidently communicate your sexual preferences to a partner.
Then, list those qualities you find most attractive and valuable in a partner sexually, rating them on a hierarchy from 1 to 10.
A partner trained in tantric lovemaking or is willing to study tantra is invaluable!
Good communication skills and sexual savvy benefit both men and women.
Maybe you discover that you love to cuddle or you are quite reserved and that being with an uninhibited partner scares you or turns you on.
Doing this exercise may surprise you as you uncover something that you had not known.
Just Ask yourself, “What does having a good lover mean to me?
Published: 19 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Tantric sexual states similar to the high states of Theta wave found in meditation.
The chief purpose of these high states of sexual energy is to achieve unity consciousness or ‘mahamudra’ with life.
Any sexual activity is beneficial for the body as well as the psyche.
When one is in a high state of sexual arousal the body unleashes hormones that provide a sense of euphoria and flood the endocrine system. Sexual energy fuels our bodies with a new sense of vitality.. When making love, we open our hearts to another and give ourselves a chance to receive and give pleasure.
Sacred sexuality transcends this by teaching us about the deeper inner realms of our psyche and provides us with true understanding and compassion.
Passionate, sensual awareness can help you increase the quality of your sexual life.
During an expanded orgasm, one is in an orgasmic state for a long period of time they can process their emotional state much easier and receive pleasure at the same time. This is a far different way of looking at emotional clearing and much more fun.
Through the practice of Tantric Sex you have the opportunity to awaken what is known as the ‘Kundalini’ energy. This energy is highly beneficial to you.
Tantric sex lets you begin to understand the power of this sexual energy. Sexual energy is one of the most powerful energies on the planet. When cultivated within the body, it not only brings you into ecstatic states of being, but it also heals your physical and emotional states of being.
The word ‘Tantra’ is alternately defined as web, weaving, expansion or liberation. Regardless of nomenclature, the heart of Tantra involves honest communication, creating intimacy and Self-realization.
The Tantric school of thought in the West is called Neo-Tantra. It blends White (devotional), and Red (sexual) Tantra, and principles of yoga and meditation. It weaves together both sensuality and spirituality so that the practitioner sees the act of making love as sacred.
Self-Realization is infinite and beyond space and time. The ultimate goal of Hindu-Buddhist based Tantra is Self-Realization, leading to total serenity, contentment and unity consciousness. You do not need to change your spiritual beliefs for the process to work.
Neo Tantra may also include accessing high states of consciousness as its main objective. But for most Westerners, it offers another way to enrich, expand and enhance their lovemaking.
Osho, the father of the Neo-Tantra movement said, “The first part is sex; the second part is love; the third part is prayer; and the fourth is transcendence. So, you move from the gross to the subtle. And in the fourth, sex, love and prayer must completely disappear, Make it absolutely silent, peaceful, meditative, not a trace is left. These are the four stages of Neo-Tantra…”
Neo-tantra makes use of the traditional tantra yoga asanas (positions), breath control, and meditation, but it’s taught outside the framework of Hindu culture and religion. Unique to Neo-Tantra is a New Age tendency to include massage, Reichian bodywork or bio-energetics, and sexual healing or counselling.
20 Sacred Sexual Secrets to Maximize the Benefits of Tantric Sex
1. Be In The Moment: Most people miss what’s going on for them in the NOW. Be present for the fun.
2. Make Conditions Right: Turn off the TV, get focused, feel rested, take advantage of the desire.
3. Cultivate Sexual Mindfulness: Be playful, attentive, erotic and be involved in the sensory moment.
4. Create a Sensual Atmosphere: Utilize the power of light, the scent of aromatherapy, the magic of incense and the toning of music.
5. Entice with Natural Aphrodisiacs: Nature holds the key, with sensual foods such as oysters, cocoa and juicy fruits.
6. Open Your Mind: Expectations can kill the moment! Try things that empower, enlighten and return you to the magic of youthful energy.
7. Let Go of Fears: Inhibitions are useless and block who you really aspire to be. This is really the time to complete who you are. The more you let go of your fears, the more highly aroused and more deeply impacted you will be by the sexual experience.
8. Be In Tune With Your Surroundings: Feel each sensation, your breathing, your environment, your sounds, your emotions. Whether you are alone or with a partner, be conscious.
9. Experience The Power of Color: Use color therapy by incorporating candles of color, lingerie, lighting or fabric in order to bring color into your environment.
10. Use Your Chakra Energies: The Chakras are stations along the central axis of your being. Each one is a point at which energy can be expressed in a certain set of actions, attitudes and emotions.
11. Rev Up Your Kundalini: This major life force energy is an ancient system originating from India that helps one awaken and merge their spiritual natures.
12. Give Up Control: Allow for the give and take of each others’ lead. The giving up of power can be just as arousing!
13. Flow With The Rhythm: Entrainment is the tendency of two oscillating bodies to lock into phase, so that they vibrate in harmony.
14. Take Your Time: Exploring the erotic landscape and savouring the body’s hot spots, will pave the road to ultimate fulfillment.
15. Express Your Joys: If it works, let your partner know. Being vocal about your pleasure may help entice your partner. If it’s not, show them where it can.
16. To Release or Not To Release: Whether you’re a believer in the great release of energy or simply transmuting this sexual energy through other channels, there’s always pleasure through a Sacred Union.
17. Reach New Heights: Rediscover the deep interrelationship between sexuality and spirituality.
18. Sex Is The Common Denominator: Sex is the energy healer of mind, body, and spirit.
19. Honor Pleasure As A Divine Gift: Sex is the most honest aspect of the Universal creative life force, electrifying every stage of our lives.
20. Cultivate Pure Ecstasy: The goal of your Tantric practice is to bring high states of sexual arousal while remaining FULLY relaxed.
Sit comfortably with your eyes closed
Relax your jaw and breathe in and out of the mouth
Bring one hand to the belly, imagine that you have a sponge in your belly, inhale and allow the sponge to become full with the breath, exhale and pull the belly button back towards the spine, imagining that you are squeezing the air out of the sponge. Continue for several breaths
On an inhale, bring your arms up out to the sides to meet over the head, on an exhale let your arms drop down to the sides again
Begin to gently rock the pelvis as you breathe and move the arms up and down. As you inhale rock forward on the sits bones (sticking the butt out); as you exhale rock ‘back’ curling the butt under.
To add more: Allow the rocking of our pelvis to spread through the spine. Inhale stick the butt out, let the belly fall forward, let the chest press forward, let the head fall back and look up at your hands. Exhale curl the butt under, pull the belly in, curl the shoulders forward, head drops to the chest. Repeat several times.
If you want to add more and begin to bring in step 2, Activating your sexual energy: when you inhale, add in pulling up through the pelvic floor as if stopping the flow of urine. Exhale and release the pelvic floor (while doing all of the other ‘exhale’ steps above as well).
After several repetitions, rest for a few minutes in silent meditation.
Published: 20 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Interestingly, many people seek out partners who resemble their caretakers.
Consciously, they seek out those with only positive traits…kind, loving, attractive, bright, and creative.
Indeed, if their childhood was sad, they may seek out radically different people from their caretakers.
Despite their conscious intentions, however, most are attracted to mates with their caretakers’ positive and negative traits.
Typically, the negative traits are more influential.
Our sub-conscious brain attempts to heal our childhood pains by re-creating the conditions of our original pain in order to correct them.
You may have got enough nurturing to survive, but not enough to feel satisfied, so your psyche attempts to return to the scene of your firstfrustration so that you can resolve unfinished business.
Indeed, many people repeat the same mistakes, relationship after relationship.
So if we’re so unconscious when choosing mates, guided by chemicals and repressed psychological needs, how can we select good mates?
John Money postulates that individuals develop mental maps during childhood that determine what turns you on and what drives you to fall in love with one person over another. Children develop these love maps based on their life experience with friends and family, the appealing temperaments of those around them as well as disturbing associations to trauma.. Gradually, a subliminal pattern of turn-on’s an turn-off’s develops.
As an adult, these elements become an unconscious composite of the image of your ideal lover, complete with physical characteristics.
As an adolescent, sexual feelings develop and love maps solidify.
So when someone with enough of your preset parameters enters your life, you can have strong feelings and even fall in love, dismissing any deviations from your actual ideal.
What Men Want
Youth: Age indicates a woman’s fertility and men worldwide prefer younger women
Men who divorce often remarry even younger wives with a larger age discretion.
Physical Beauty: Full lips, clear skin and eyes, good muscle tone, healthy teeth, shiny hair, youthful gait, high energy, animated facial expressions are observable signs of youth and vitality. These all signify reproductive capability.
Body Shape - Facial beauty is only part of the picture and the rest of the body provide cues to fertility. Standards vary from culture to culture, light vs. dark skin, plump vs. slim, large vs. small breasts. Universally, men prefer a healthy waist-to-hip ratio (0.67 – 0.80) which signals health and fertility. Women with higher ratios have more difficulty getting pregnant and suffer from higher rates of disease, such as diabetes, hypertension and heart disease.
Chastity and Fidelity - Many cultures abroad still value chastity in a potential mate. For many, chastity is an indicator of fidelity. Modern men all over place a premium on fidelity. Men abhor promiscuity in a partner. Infidelity can upset him more than any other pain a woman can inflict.
Studies show that infants respond to the same standards of attractiveness as adults. Standards of beauty seemingly emerge early in life.
What Women Want
Generosity: a women wants a man to share his resources with her and her offspring.
Economic Capacity: Women like men who can command food resources, shelter and create stability.
Social Status: Resources flow to those at the top of the hierarchy, and trickle slowly down to those at the bottom.
Men of power enjoy privilege and prestige.
The higher a man’s Social status, the more resources he has to offer a woman.
Age: Mature men tend to command more respect, status and position than their younger counterparts. On average, men are three years older than their mates.
Ambition and Hard Work: Hard work is the best predictor of anticipated income and potential. Men who lack ambition are deemed undesirable.
A woman may likely end her relationship with a lazy man without career goals.
Kindness: A signal to a mate of the ability and desire of a potential mate to commit energy, time and resources to a partner.
Lack of kindness signals selfishness, an inability to commit and a high probability that his mate will be forced to absorb the costs..
Dependability and Stability: Mates with these qualities are more reliable and less likely to inflict emotional and psychological costs on their partners.
Intelligence: People who have a high IQ score tend to get higher degrees of education and land better paying jobs.
Intelligent men tend to be more interesting to spend time with.
Compatibility: Sustained cooperative alliances prove mutually beneficial and stable for longterm relationships.
Discrepancies in values, interests and personalities produce conflict and strife.
Couples with shared values on sexuality, gender roles and faith tend to remain together.
Size and Strength: Women prefer tall, strong men with athletic prowess to feel protected.
Health: Women worldwide prefer healthy mates. Poor health is regarded as a turn-off.
Commitment and Love: Men who are reluctant to commit are seen as undesirable mates. Universally, women want to feel love. Women look for signs of loyalty, commitment and love for the channeling of resources to them and their children. Women expect men to break off other love relationships, discuss marriage and consider having children.
Consciously Selecting a Mate
Such factors influence our decisions for mates on a deep subconscious level.
Can we become conscious and choose good mates who promote our personal ecology?
One helpful tool we can employ is Voice Dialogue.
The exercise below helps in the process of coming to your center and making conscious choices about relationships.
The Aware Ego Center Your Selves..Sit in a quiet place and close your eyes. Imagine you are moderating a meeting of your Chakra Committee. You sit at the head of a massive, oval oak table. As you gaze around the table,you ask each member to evaluate the one you are considering for relationship and give their report.
Your Base Chakra Committee is composed of your survival voices, Inner Critic, Pleaser, Warrior and Inner Child. Ask your Pleaser if he feels this person will require him to work overtime keeping them happy. Is your Warrior up in arms about this individual or does he feel relaxed. Is your Inner Critic trying to get your attention, concerned about this and that? Don’t forget your Inner Child, does she feel safe to come out and show her face when this new potential lover is around?
Next invoke Genital Chakra Committee. Is your Inner Slut happy and sufficiently turned on? How about your Pope? Will this one expose you to STD’s or ridicule from family or friends?
Ask your Power Chakra Committee, your Inner Leader and Supporter and your Will-Ego. Will this one empower you to accomplish what you need in life?
Can you get behind this one, empowering them without compromising your own integrity?
Are you in alignment or is something sticking in your gut?
Move your focus to the Heart Chakra Committee: Giver, Taker, Pleaser, Selfish, Romantic, Hero.
How does this new partner feel to you, heart? Do you feel loved? Do they appeal to your romantic sense? I Can this one let you love them? Are they worthy of love? Does this one need to be rescued?
Now the Throat Chakra Committee wants to speak. Your Inner Orator decides,
Can he speak without being interrupted?
The Inner Secretkeeper is cautious, wondering will this candidate be safe to reveal my truth?
Now consult the Brow Chakra Committee.
What does your Intellect think about this candidate? What does your Psychic intuit?
Finally, when you consult your Crown Chakra Committee, do you feel spiritually connected to this person?
Take time to feel the energies of all your voices.
Then, study all the messages from each individual in each committee from each chakra. Remember the voices that spoke up the loudest.
How can you address their concerns with this new person?
Don’t forget the quiet voices that care about your general well being too.
Take a deep breath.
Slowly open your eyes and feel your centre.
You’re awake now, aware, conscious.
Now, what’s your answer?
Hal and Sidra Stone, the creators of Voice Dialogue, aptly describe it as the “the Psychology of Selves or the Psychology of the Aware Ego.” Voice Dialogue is an effective, non-judgmental tool for enhancing consciousness and identifying the many selves that inhabit the psyche. This method seeks to discover what is rather than what is wrong. In the end, there’s no right way to conduct your life, just the process of life, itself.
Published: 21 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
How to Create Tantra Buddies
Are you still waiting for the one?
It may be beneficial to start developing loving friendships with those you meet at tantra seminars, pujas and workshops.
Magic occurs when you relax from the need to have a mate and simply sink into what is. Love will begin come to you in the form of good friends.
Some of these new friends may appear sexually attractive to you and some may not.
When you get so involved in the moment, you forget you had been looking for something.
Once you finally become very comfortable and deeply immersed in your new life with loving intimates, a surreal string of events happens and “the one” miraculously appears.
Then, a whole new set of dilemmas arise.
Many single folks develop more self-confidence, become more centered and feel more attractive by becoming a tantra workshop junkie.
They often blend tantra with other transpersonal and relationship workshops.
An awesome transformation happens for those immersed in personal growth training. These people soar and many times find deep soul-mates and marry.
If you have limited funds, volunteer or submit proposals for scholarships.
Most organizations need help putting on seminars.
In today’s world, Cyberspace is the most socially active place to find like-minded souls.
Search the better dating sites and bonafide personals ads. Network with friends.
Develop communication skills. Start talking.
Relax your standards of physical requirements for potential mates.
If you’re holding out for Mr. Hunk or Ms. Hot, you may miss out on the greatest love you’ll ever know.
Try to open yourself up to one who may not fit your usual physical standards.
Once you start a lovemaking connection with them, they get more attractive every day.
Everyone has a beautiful soul; you just need to you open up your heart to see it.
Give love a chance by giving yourself to love.
How Can Singles Can Attract a Soul Mate Using Tantra
Create a list of specific, desired features in your ideal mate.
Make the list long, full of specifics of what you want.
Order the items in importance, from top to bottom; i.e., physical attributes, psychological makeup, emotional health, personality features, financial status
Make 3 columns on your list. On the right, the quality desired and beside each item a yes and no box to check.
Make copies of your list, about 30 or more.
Take one of these lists and mark all the yes’s with an X.
Take that list and place it on your altar.
Create a ritual, say a prayer, light a candle, meditate.
Then masturbate.
As you orgasm, envision your beloved standing before you.
Continue and orgasm again.
See your lover touching you, holding you, loving you the way you always wanted.
When next you meet someone who attracts you, go up and speak to them.
Attraction is nature’s way of saying that person has a message for you.
Present them with your personal or business card.
Begin a polite conversation.
Establish contact, friendship, and social relationship.
Even if that person is not the one, they may serve as a link to that special one.
When your begin to date, take out 3 copies of your ideal mate sheet.
Put the name of the new person on the top of each one and mark beside the name, “one week”, another copy with “one month” and the last “three months”.
Pull out the sheet after the appropriate time period and rate the relationship.
After 3 months, if there are more No’s then Yes’s, consider moving on and trying another relationship.
By that point, things will probably not shift to a significant amount of “Yes’s”.
**Now, while you may attract your soul mate, they may not be your twin flame.
How Friends Can Be Tantra Beloveds
Sometimes the best place to find tantra beloveds is among your friends.
Sacred Sexual healing can also be facilitated by one who deeply cares for you but not on a romantic level.
Healing can be done with a lover who shares a deep, intimate relationship with you.
A loving friend may be even more effective as they are not in any negative bonding patterns with you.
Many participants report how healing it is to be partnered with one they would never have selected based upon their usual criteria.
Deep friendships are formed and issues that would have been overlooked in romantic relationships healed by the loving energy of normally “inappropriate” relationships.
In ancient India, young men were partnered with toothless crones and young women with elderly men for their sexual rites initiation or rites of passage.
This odd pairing was done to teach the adolescent about the beautiful essence of one’s souls rather than paying too much heed to the external facades souls tend to inhabit.
Perhaps these modern-day tantric opportunities, mixing and matching where our egos wouldn’t normally take us teach us how to see deeper into others and thus reflect back the beauty of ourselves we’d normally never have the chance to find and get to know.
Published: 22 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Preparing for Your SoulMate
To be ready for your soul mate, you must know how to recognize them when they show up. Sometimes they may not look or act the way you had imagined.
We are not all models or athletes; your soulmate will likely not fall in that category. Even if they do, we all age and lose our looks to some degree.
Will you love your soul mate at all stages of their life?
Will they love you?
Take a good, honest look at yourself.
Are you sufficiently healed from childhood trauma and past relationships in order to fully appreciate your soul mate when they do arrive?
Will you be able to treat them with the love and respect they deserve?
Many times we lose our newly found soulmates because we play the same dysfunctional roles we did with other lovers, friends and family.
To better understand ourselves and relationships, take a look at the nature of love.
An old saying goes, “Once upon a time a man was looking for the perfect woman.
After looking far and wide, he finally found her.
The only issue was that she was looking for the perfect man.”
The Chemistry of Attraction
What attracts two people to each other?
When lovers meet and are discover one another, the rush of chemicals begins.
Phenylethylamine speeds up the flow of data between nerve cells while dopamine and norepinephrine, chemical cousins of amphetamines, make us feel good and stimulate the production of adrenaline which makes our heart race.
The combination of the explosion of these 3 adrenline-like neuro-chemicals gives us that sense of infatuation that makes new lovers feel euphoric and energized, float on air and lets them talk incessantly and make love all night.
Pheromone-laced potions make a plain woman so desirable she can’t keep men away.
During a test, an oxytocin-based nasal spray gave men erections.
Science is on the verge of controlling the uncontrollable: love.
Dr, James H. Fallon from the U. of California says, “We are at the dawn of a new beginning, where people may soon never have to suffer the pain of love’s slings and arrows.
Within 10 years, we may see a brain chemical nasal spray to enhance love between a couple.
This infatuation phase is often accompanied by intense passion, exhilaration and may include an element of yearning based on an obstacle like distance, adultery, taboo and forbidden love.
But this high time is limited, lasting about 2 to 3 years, based upon frequency of contact. For some, absence does make the heart grow fonder.
Attachment Chemicals
As the affects of Phenylethylamine (PEA) subside endorphines predominate and the attachment phase begins. Chemicals like oxytocin, released when cuddling and during orgasm, help lovers get used to each other, relax, calm the mind, kill pain and reduce anxiety. Attached lovers enjoy stability, are more sensitive to the feelings of one another and evolve their relationship to a trusting friendship.
Oxytocin seems to trigger the creation of deep feelings and the foundation for love and trust. During orgasm, oxytocin levels rise three to five-fold for men. The release of oxytocin during male orgasms help induce contractions of the prostate and seminal vesicle. Women reach higher levels of oxytocin than men during orgasm and multi-orgasmic women reached a higher peak during the second orgasm. Oxytocin levels are higher during the second phase of the menstrual cycle (after ovulation) than the first. The release of oxytocin during female orgasm induces uterine contractions which can help transport the sperm towards the egg.
Oxytocin, released during lovemaking increases fertility and the likelihood of conception. It’s biological purpose seems to include creating a lasting bond between two people. Could this be to insure the survival of the child?
However, the amount of oxytocin produced by a woman can be greatly enhanced by the number of orgasms she receives. So if he is a great lover, a woman may fall more in love with him than he with her; thus, she becomes the more emotionally attached one. The upside: she’ll likely stay loyal since she’s so emotionally invested and wants to return to the source of her incredible orgasms for the release of more chemicals. The downside: his chemicals tend to wear off sooner, they’re not as intense to begin with or he may wander off in search of a new chemical fix.
Biologically, this discrepancy seems like it’s more advantageous for a male to spread his seed among many while it’s more beneficial for a woman to find security and bond to one person who will protect her and her offspring.
Perhaps this chemical correlation explains why some women bond so deeply, seem to fall more intensely in love than their male counterparts and get hurt more frequently.
Chemical Comfort…The longer two people are together, the likelier they’ll stay together as they become addicted to endorphins, morphine-like opiates that calm and reassure.
Endorphins create marital serenity with warmth, security and intimacy. Unlike the rush of PEA, it’s a steadier, more addictive feeling. The absence of endorphins make longterm lovers yearn for one another when apart and a lover grieve when their partner dies
Addicted to Love…When people fall in love, serotonin levels deplete to the same low level as those who suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).
That’s why people in love act fanatical because they share the same feelings and symptoms of OCD sufferers; i.e.,uncontrollable thoughts.
Also, those with low serotonin levels are more prone to fall in love and engage in sex.
Some people are love junkies and need the excitement of relationship chemistry to feel happy and high about life.
Once the chemical effects wane (about 6 months – 3 years), such relationships tend to fail and their off again in search of a fresh feeling fix.
If chemistry addicts happen to stay married, they’re likely to use affairs to fuel their highs.
It’s easy to be tricked into thinking someone is perfect when chemicals start flowing.
The social bonding effects of oxytocin are very clear.
It seems that many times love really does tend to be blind!
Realistically, men and women often find themselves choosing mates who psychologically and emotionally abuse them.
Some with high levels of love-addicting chemicals, irrationally stay in destructive relationships when they fall in love.
Before mixing your oxytocin, ensure you’re with one you truly want to be with!
To love someone deeply gives you strength.
Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.
What’s Love Got to Do With It?
Love, one of life’s great mysteries, has been the subject of songs, books and myth since the dawn of creation.
Romeo loves Juliet, Cleopatra loves Anthony, Harry loves Sally.
In the throes of passion lovebirds risk all, to follow their passion, even life itself.
The most overwhelming of all the emotions, love can spark a temporary insanity.
Dating services, websites, magazines contain the lovelorn looking for love lost.
Even behind the proliferation of sex, we can see the underpinnings of love.
For many people, love obsesses them.
It’s the only reason to get out of bed in the morning, they dwell on it day and night. When in love, they they act irrationally, think bizarre thoughts and practice stupidity.
The palpitations, sweating, light-headedness and weak limbs that occur when we fall in love are exactly the same reactions as when we meet a bear in the forest.
The best way to prepare for “this crazy little thing called love” is to be clear about who you are as you consciously choose a mate.
Published: 22 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Observe the wonders as they occur around you. Don’t claim them.
Feel the artistry moving through and be silent.
~Rumi
Are you single by choice?
Are you reaping the single lifestyle’s benefits in the dance of life.
Dating many lets you practice many styles of dances…tango to salsa to ballroom.
One partner may not know how all the dances you desire, so so not limit yourself. Clearly, it’s impossible for one person to fulfill your every need.
Now you feel ready for a tantric lover…the one, but can’t find the one or you’re already involved with a non-tantric partner.
If so, you needn’t wait for another lover before you love yourself as your own beloved.
Can you Practice Tantric Sex Without a Partner?
Yes, just Love yourself, accept who you are and become more comfortable with you while single or waiting for your soulmate. The following exercise guides you through a date with yourself. Be creative as you design a unique date just for you, based on this model.
A Tantric Date With Yourself
Reserve time for a date with yourself.
Anticipate that day to be alone with yourself as much you would a date with another. However, on this date, you will pamper yourself rather than the other.
When the day of your date arrives, call up your favorite restaurant early in the day and have it prepare your favorite meal for you to pick up for your date with yourself that evening. Set an elegant table with linen, tablecloth and your best dinnerware. Transform your room into a love temple with candles, incense, attractive art and cloth, music, aphrodisiacs and sacraments of your choice.
Prepare an altar with sacred items that represent your life and those you have loved and have loved you.
Clean and organize with the love and excitement usually reserved for another person. You deserve it because you are special!
Draw a hot bubble bath, light candles, select romantic music.
Begin your date at the altar.
Rest your hand lovingly on your heart.
Dedicate this lovemaking to self, personal healing and growth.
Envision all the love you ever knew and realize it exists at this moment for you.
Open to the divine spirit within and universal consciousness without.
Sanctify unity, harmony and balance.
As above, so below.
Eat your delicious but light meal.
Do not thwart your romantic interlude with overeating.
A night of romance lies ahead, so eat slowly, savour every aroma, taste and texture.
Treat yourself to a variety of interesting and stimulating flavours.
Save your dessert for the next part.
Check the bath waiting; it should now be the ideal temperature by now.
Make every action a sacred ritual for you as giver and receiver, divinity and devotee.
Soaking in the tub, feed yourself chocolate-covered strawberries as you would a lover. Enjoy wine or sacrament.
Close your eyes and meditate on the soothing sensations of the warm water.
Notice the music and fragrances.
Open your eyes and see the candles cast dancing shadows.
Delicately wash your feet, arms, body.
Love your genitals last.
Lightly massage your entire body and pleasure your genitals by hand, toys or water jets. Practice with a wide variety.
Notice what you like, what works and what doesn’t.
Make a mental note for future partners.
Breathe.
Envision the chakras and imagine energy moving from the base up the crown.
See the kundalini energy coiled in your coccyx, as a snake in a basket waiting for the lid’s removal.
You open the basket.
She is ready.
Bring yourself to the height of orgasm; purposely pull back the energy and stop the orgasm.
You’re teaching yourself about your body, how it responds and what it likes.
Experiment…This is your night!
MEN, stimulate your lingham until close to ejaculation.
Notice when you are about to go over the edge then don’t go there.
Stop stimulating your penis, take a deep breath.
Exhale out all the air then suck in your belly.
Visualize bringing energy up through all your chakras, out your crown and pull energy back through your base.
Pulse your anal sphincter. Pulse. Pulse. Pulse. Pause. Breathe.
Begin the cycle again.
Soon you’ll begin experiencing orgasms without ejaculation.
Treat yourself to several hours of love.
If you ejaculate, take a 20-minute break, then continue.
WOMEN, when you orgasm don’t stop with just one.
Alternate pleasuring your genitals externally, internally and simultaneously to experience a variety of orgasms.
Continue stimulating yourself through several orgasms, then several more. Indulge!
Published: 25 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Dark Tantra and S&M play does not solely involve techniques and toys. Rather, it’s another way to establish connection and express your creative side, creating a deeper, more meaningful shared experience with your beloved.
All men secretly crave boundary-pushing bed action so these moves can drive him crazy.
Bad girls are legendary.
A man who’s been with one almost passes out from bliss when he recalls his experience.
You may be thinking, “Me…a bad girl?”
But any woman can learn to awaken her hibernating vixen and have a hot time doing it!
Bed-devil status involves a fearless attitude, not your sexual experience or leather wardrobe.
Men adore uninhibited, unbridled women who push boundaries, break rules and demand what they want.
What makes these women stand out?
Forever crank up the heat in your sex life with these audacious Dark Tantra sex tips.
TAKE CHARGE…Be the Boss in Bed!
A sexy woman knows how to exploit the power she has over a man.
Tell him to lie down on the bed, then use handcuffs, scarves, or a necktie to tether his hands together so he can’t touch you.
Next, torture him playfully with your teasing.
Slowly kiss your way down his torso, and just as you get to his pelvis, move back up to his ears and neck.
As you tantalize him and he strains to touch you, ask him why he wants you so bad, saying that you won’t free him until he convinces you.
Once he’s pleaded his case, release his hands, roll onto your back, and allow him to take over.
After building up the erotic anticipation, it’ll be like setting a wild horse loose on your body, Hearing him describe your hotness will definitely turbocharge your experience too.
Don a Sexy Costume…Role Play
Infuse your sex sessions with more attitude by looking like a true temptress.
A woman can highlight her sexuality by playing up different sides of her erotic persona.
If you feel like a sultry tease, don a white cotton undie set or pale pink lingerie and pull your hair into a ponytail, or a schoolgirl plaid miniskirt, shirt tied above your navel.
An X-rated seductress might wear something red or black in sheer fabric or lace, adding crimson lipstick.
Outfits not only help you get in the moment, they also INSPIRE HIM and give him a visual high.
Just standing there in your flimsies may be enough, but teasing lines get the ball rolling. When playing Ms. Innocent, say it’s your first time, and ask him what to do.
As a seductress, whisper all the different ways and places you want to touch him.
Learn to XXX-Talk
Dirty dialogue always puts a triple-X stamp on your sex sessions.
Dirty talk heightens the whole experience, keeps you both present, arousing you even more.
Plus, men actually like taking direction in bed as it helps them get it right.
First tell him how absolutely divine he feels.
“You feel so/You make me [adjective]”; “I love it when you [verb] my [body part].”
Then show him how to send you soaring; i.e., “Yeah, almost there. I need your [noun] on my [body part], like this.”
Be a Voyeur…Watch Yourselves Having Sex
Body confidence and carnal curiosity are key traits of a sex goddess.
Both are on full display when you make a sex tape.
Seeing yourselves midact gives you a voyeuristic thrill, as if you’re peeping into your own bedroom. It feels taboo.
You also can see how your partner is responding and how you look when getting off.
Just hook up a video camera directly to a TV in your bedroom WITHOUT recording.
And watch yourselves while you’re going at it.
Missionary doesn’t make for good TV, so assume racier positions when facing the camera.
Try doggie-style so you can both see the action or girl-on-top so you can watch just how you move.
Take shots exchanging oral sex so you can see the orgasmic effect you have on each other.
Beckon His Inner Bad Boy
Bad girls can capture a few prisoners in the sack, but a bold bedroom chick also enacts her own fantasies, shame-free.
A top female fantasy is to be taken.
It’s a turn-on to feel like he wants you so badly that he just can’t help himself!
Moreover, when he’s being aggressive, you must fully give up the reins, which helps you be even more in the now
Instruct him to hide behind the door and surprise you by taking charge when you get home.
He can either have his way with you in the foyer or pull you into the bedroom.
Let him know you’re in the mood but want him to conquer you, even if it means playfully wrestling you to the bed as you try to slip out of his grasp.
Jolt His Libido
Break out of the touch-here-lick-there routine to add a lusty layer to the erotic experience.
Fearless sexual playmates know unexpected intense sexual moves are far more exciting.
A forceful touch snaps him into the moment and heightens every sensation that follows.
The spontaneity also keeps him anticipating each touch, magnifying his excitement.
Plus, the implied roughness invites him to tap into his primal, alpha-male sexual self.
Grip his butt while in missionary, scratch his chest and the sides of his torso while you’re on top, yank his head to kiss him passionately.
If those excite him, firmly spank his butt, bite his shoulder, or tug his hair in the act.
Try Some Naughty & Nice Props & Toys
Try something unexpected with “toys” you already have around the house.
A HARD-BRISTLED BRUSH is IDEAL for spanking and gently scratching his skin.
Run a ROLLING PIN over his back and thighs during an erotic massage.
Use a BLUSH BRUSH too tickle his neck, chest, arms, and package.
If you wish to expand your dark tantra and role play wardrobe, check out this website for sexy lingerie, sexy costumes and more.
Published: 26 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
In today’ busy world, men are constantly pressured to perform, provide, and accomplish. This Tantric Session for Men provides freedom and is totally without goals.
Indeed, the male is totally receptive during this ceremony 90-minute or 2-hour ritual.
The session starts with the Bath Ceremony.
This hot sensual bath serves to tune you inward and focus your mind, engage your pleasure receptors and deepen your awareness.
Once the body is relaxed and massaged and the spirit is nurtured and awakened, we focus on the 1st and 2nd chakras.
In Tantra, the male G-spot and prostate gland are deemed energetic access points for Kundalini energy, leading to enlightenment.
A gentle digital technique helps contact these subtle places with increased receptivity. Expert stimulation, eye contact and conscious focus heal trauma or clear negative imprinting.
Sexual abuse, abandonment and rejection issues are accessed via the sexual center. Issues dealing with security, finances and commitment reside in the muladhara (root chakra), located at the base of the spine.
Loving energy and focused intention help harmonize these centers, heal any wounds from the opposite sex, while increasing your capacity to feel pleasurable sensation.
Everyone’s experience with this session differs.
Some experience full body orgasm, others have an emotional release (tears, laughter, screams) followed by immense pleasure.
Most have powerful dreams for some nights after.
The key is having a safe environment to freely express whatever arises.
A devoted tantric healer serves to guide and support you throughout the process.
You will find this loving, spiritual experience to be transformative and unforgettable.
Most Sacred Spot
A 2-hour session of sacred spot work is like a full year of talk therapy program.
Sacred spot massage is a healing modality designed to clear emotional blocks in women.
With proper instruction, a woman may move quickly and powerfully through issues that prevent her from exuberantly enjoying her sexual, sensual nature.
The potential for experiencing full-body orgasm also exists.
Clients report becoming aware of a pulsating, outward expansion of all that exists.
She enters into this movement, this sensation, with every cell in her body, every aspect of her being.
Full-body orgasm is a profound, spiritual event, both transformational and healing.
Sacred spot has also been called the G-spot, named after Dr. Ernest Grafenberg who wrote a 1950 article about discovering this area of the female anatomy.
It has been written about since ancient times and is well described in eastern texts. Grafenberg’s article is quite comical from our current vantage point.
Manipulating a woman’s sacred spot is an intimate privilege to be approached with a sense of awe and exploration. A couple may need several sessions before they truly feel that they’re starting to understand the power of Tantric bodywork and experience results. Over time, and with the same partner, this precious gift releases blocks that keep a woman from fully enjoying sexual encounters. If she has experienced trauma in her sexual or relationship history and her sacred spot is intentionally stimulated for healing, she may recall inappropriate touch, undesired coitus, or other sexual/emotional trauma. Unresolved issues around abortion, medical exams and childbirth trauma may exist. The Sacred spot accurately maps a woman’s sexual history to date. Fantasies, past life images, birth trauma and early sex abuse memories are triggered. This work also serves to simply reduce the tension and stress from our busy lives.
A sacred spot session work can involve re-flowering.
This healing ceremony removes any negative imprints from early sexual experiences, in order that more positive sexual memories can emerge. The sexual system (2nd chakra) is most prone to shut down by life’s traumas.
A depletion of life force in our entire body and being, leading to less joy results.
It’s a rare individual who hasn’t suffered some sexual abuse, intrusion or harassment.
None of us get ideal information about our sexuality and our bodies.
Both men and women suffer from the prevalent violent, demeaning images of women. Sacred spot massage seeks to remove these layers of distress and increase pleasure.
Clearly, studying with a Dakini is ideal prior to attempting sacred spot manipulation.
Charles Muir is a tantric pioneer, excellent teacher and great resource. His wonderful Audio tape on How to find the G-oddess Spot and vital intentions for healing your beloved is perfect for home use.
Published: 27 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Hot is such an inadequate term to describe someone who is looking desirable and feeling good. Sexy sounds so much better.
So, men, do you feel sexy and confident about yourself?
Many of my female clients say that they want more from a man than just a buff body and handsome face. After all, you can only hold a conversation with a beautiful fool for so long. How many hockey stats and car engines are there? It’s a state of mind. We have all seen less than attractive males with very attractive females. It seems their attraction transcends the physical, although that’s part of it.
A healthy body has incredibly wonderful effects on the mind. Women gravitate to fit, attractive men not just because of their look, but for the confidence they exude. Confident men enjoy a sense of invigoration from taking proper care of yourself.
If this is difficult for you, start slowly and build up to something more comfortable.
Do light push-ups/sit-ups in the morning and in the evening, preferably after breakfast and an hour before bedtime. Great regimens for beginners: www.hundredpushups.comwww.50pullups.com.
Bicep and tricep exercises are not as important as you imagine. Women may like strong arms, but are indifferent if the rest of your body is in good shape.
Avoid drinking pop and soda. This stuff is corrosive, so why contaminate your body with it?
No carbs after noon, unless after a workout. Opt for a salad with chicken, turkey or tuna.
Drink at least 8 glasses a day, to stay hydrated and keep your skin looking so fresh and so clean, clean.
Eat fruits and veggies…OFTEN! If you can eat them raw, do it. They are so full of nutrients that in no time at all, you will begin to you feel amazing!
Shave… The grass on your lawn needs to maintained and so too the stubble on your face. If you want to rock a 5 o’clock shadow, do it with style.
Clip your nails, hands and feet…Don’t’ draw blood while under the sheets.
Wash your hair and moisturize your skin…This should go with saying, especially for men with long locks. Maintain yourself. Moisturized skin is crucial for those sensual moments between the sheets.
Floss…Nothing spells unattractive more than rotting residue between your teeth and bad breath.
Manscape...It’s a matter of personal preference but, at the very least, subdue it with regular trimming. Women really do prefer performing oral sex on shaved gents
2. Pay close attention to the food you put into your body. Too many cheat days can make you feel bloated and depressed. After all, it’s really about how you feel about yourself. Self-sabotage only hinders your progress. Try to temper your cravings by cutting out a list of harmful stuff.
3. Good Personal Hygiene Rocks! Nobody wants to date that dirty, unkempt kid from Charlie Brown. Hygiene includes more than just brushing your teeth and taking a shower.
4. Master preparing three dishes in the kitchen. Some of my male friends are truly phenomenal cooks and have expanded upon this. From rack of ribs to sushi, soup to tacos, and chilli to curry chicken, give it a try. If you are not already a gifted culinary artist, take some mini-cooking courses. If you have a friend or relative who’s an amazing cook, borrow ideas and recipes from them. Ask them to test out your tasty dish before you present it.
Imagine this…On a third date, your date comes over and smells the seductive aroma of curry chicken from the hall. When she enters, you’re just wearing track pants and shirtless. “Hey, don’t mind me, I’m just finishing up. I’m in my cooking attire,” you casually say. She sits down and watches television but she’s thinking of you while you get ready…you get the picture.
5. Be selfless. Nobody likes a self-indulgent whiner or braggart who waxes on about himself. This guy who never listens and can barely wait to insert himself in the conversation, often interrupting others in mid sentence. When you are genuinely self-onfident, it shows. Let your masculine swagger and mischievous smile speak for itself.
6. Smile with your eyes! A man’s eyes can be his sexiest attribute. Be that easy-going, inviting guy women find easily approachable. Don’t be that arrogant guy who assumes he’s God’s gift to women. Acknowledge your flaws if they arise in conversation. Once you realize you’re not perfect, you’ll become a much more interesting conversationalist.
7.Learn how to give an Awesome Massage. if your goal is to get her relaxed, ready and receptive, touching her with strength and finesse says so much about you as a lover. It says you’re prepared to spend time on her; you’re not going to just get in, get off and bolt. A great massage will not only relax her but it will get her in the mood for more. If you want to be that one man she must see again, give her a great massage.
8. Take an OM (Orgasmic Meditation Class)...OM is a practice done between two people that has no goal except to feel what’s happening in the moment. OM is not about more climax. It’s about expanding the sweet spot of the most pleasurable part of female orgasm. Uncover the man within that doesn’t have to exist in the rules society has given us, join together with other Ignited men, and learn to connect to women in the way you’ve always wanted.
Nota Bene: If something makes you feel good about yourself, do it early and often. For some men, dancing is a sensual activity that lets them connect to their inner Shiva..their sexual nature. They dance whenever they’re out on the town or even around the house. Find whatever feeds your inner sensual male and then do it whenever you can to keep your juices flowing.
Published: 28 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Men, learn to give a great massage if your goal is to get her ready and receptive.
Touching her with strength and finesse says so much about you as a lover.
It says you’re prepared to spend time on her; you’re not going to just get in, get off and bolt.
Not only will a great massage relax her, but it helps her get in the mood for more.
If you want to be that one man she has to see again, give a great massage.
Prepare the Area…You want to be in a private, quiet place when you give a sensual massage. Take the phone is off the hook, turn off your cell, and ensure you be bothered by the door, kids, animals et al. Select some soothing music and turn off the lights… then light some scented candles. This is an ideal time to invest in a “Massage Kit”.
You’re also going to need a couple of sheets – one to cover your work area, and another to cover her. If she feels “exposed” or cold she isn’t going to relax and let you work! So, as you work, uncover only the area you want to massage. Then, cover it again to keep the area warm. As you massage the skin, blood flows into that area. This blood causes the area to redden and to warm. You don’t want this to turn to chill, so be sure to cover your finished areas.
Finally, have some water available. Many people feel thirsty after a massage because working muscles causes chemicals to be released into the body.
Massage Modalities….You’ve probably heard of all types of massage techniques – Shiatsu, Swedish, Rolfing, etc., are all different types of massage with different goals. Just focus on the the goal, which is to simply soothe, relax and stimulate your beloved!
When giving a massage, mind the following:
1. Massage muscle…not skin, bone or organs
2. Work large muscle groups
3. Use firm, even pressure, not hard, deep pressure
4. Stay away from overly hard or overly soft areas of the body – unless asked
5. Always use a lubricant
6. Know when to quit
Now, let’s explore each of these points:
Massage Muscle, Not Skin...Try this: rub your fingers gently over the skin of your arm. Now, press harder and move the skin without dragging your fingers across it. This is the difference between caressing and a massage. Remember that massages are for muscles below the skin – not for the skin itself.
You want a deep, penetrating effect – not something superficial. This is because the nerves in the skin tire very quickly. Further, many people are ticklish – not just on their feet, but all over their bodies! You want a massage to be relaxing and focused…not an irritant!
Also, stay away from bones. By pressing hard on the skin just over a bone, you’re going to cause pain – not pleasure. Unless you know your human anatomy you’re probably not going to know where your woman’s bones are; so, before you begin rubbing an area, make sure that the tissue below the skin is soft. In fact, use the relatively softness to determine how hard to press.
For example, press your fingers into your relaxed stomach. This softness tells you that there are no bones below your fingers – only organs. You don’t want to press into an area like this very hard. On the other hand, when you press your fingers into your thigh, you can feel how firm the tissue feels here. This is because of the underlying bone.
When you’re massaging a woman’s back, shoulders, legs or arms, look for this firmness as a good place to work.
Work on Large Muscles...There are only a few of them in the body, mostly in the neck, back, shoulders and legs. By concentrating on the large muscle groups, not only is your massage more efficient, you are getting the largest source of body tension while also preventing damage.
On either side of the spine are large muscle groups called Latissimus Dorsi. These long, strong muscles that keep you standing erect – and are great places to work. Again, be careful here as just underneath these muscles are the ribs, and some are ticklish here!
Use Firm, Even Pressure…Pressure that’s too light or inconsistent (light, heavy and light again) can be as uncomfortable as too much pressure. Be sure to use an even amount – not too hard, and not too light when giving a massage. Indeed, it’s best to start out somewhat lightly and ask if she wants more. Gently increase your strength until she indicates that it is enough.
Use a Lubricant…Never try anything but the most minor of massages without lubricating the skin. For example, if you want to rub her shoulders that’s okay. If you’re going to give a skin-to-skin massage, always use a lubricant. Lubes help to both prepare the skin and protect it.
Don’t use Vaseline to massage her...you need the lubricant to be absorbed by the skin. Stay away from lubes that are absorbed too quickly like hand lotions. Pick up lightly scented massage oil at The BodyShop...you’ll definitely use it!
Just Follow the Numbers...So,how do you progress? First, the female massage receiver should be undressed and lying on her stomach. Make sure her hair is out of the way of your “work area”. Next, pick up the lubricant or oil you have selected and squeeze some onto your palm. Don’t drip it directly on her skin…it may be cold. Rub your hands together to warm both the oil and your skin. Even on a hot evening, make sure your hands are warmer than the air. This difference helps remind her to relax.
Now follow these steps:
A. Start with her Shoulders..Grab the muscles mid-way between the curve of her shoulder and her neck with both hands (gently!). Knead these muscles and gently pull them toward you. This is a great place to start as most people carry a lot of tension here..
B. Work across her shoulders to her neck...Use your thumbs and the tips of your fingers to work from these muscles across and down her upper back. Watch that your nails don’t dig into her skin!
C. Down her arms to her hands...With both hands cupped on the curve where her shoulders turn into her arms, gently lift her shoulders a few times to stretch the muscles in front. Work down each arm separately finding the muscle groups in the front and back and kneading them gently. When you get to her hands, use your thumbs to work her palms. Do the other arm!
D. Mid-back…Now, return to her upper back and work downwards to her mid-back. This is another area many people store tension. Use your thumbs and fingertips to work from the center out and to push upward.
E. Lower-back…Continue to work down her back to her hips and just above her ass. Again, another tension-storage area!F. Upper thighs…Working the muscles of her upper thighs is a great place to spend some time (if she’ll allow this!) After you’ve worked the back of her legs and down her calves (next), you can have her turn over to work the fronts.
G. Calves…The calves are strong muscles that get a workout every day. These are great places to spend some time kneading each one separately with both hands.
Remember, once you start the massage, her skin will absorb the oil or lotion you applied to your hands. So, continue to re-lube regularly. Also, humans are “bilateral” – that is we have a balance between the right and left. Don’t neglect one side for the other – keep things balanced.
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Ready to graduate? Learn to give a great foot massage!
When massaging someone’s feet, be careful as many are ticklish here. If you drag your fingers over the feet lightly, she may flinch, negating the work you’ve already done in getting her relaxed. When working the feet, remember that there are many areas – each with their own needs. So, start by firmly grabbing her heel and pushing it up toward her leg, pulling it down and work it side to side. The heel contains a number of very small, very strong muscles.
Next, work your thumbs on the under side ( the “plantar” side) of her foot (unless she asks, avoid the top of the feet). Again, use deep slow pressure with the tips of your thumbs – don’t do it too gently or it’s going to feel like you’re tickling her. Work the balls of her feet and in between her toes. Also, pull on each toe for about 10 seconds – don’t jerk, just give a smooth, strong tug.
Generally, women’s feet are strong and can take much more intense massage than the rest of her, but watch her reactions. Further, ask her what she likes, and take directions!
The Ending~The Beginning...Once you’ve completed the massage, wipe her body down with a towel to remove any residual oil and to signal that the massage is over.
What? She’s Drooling!...Actually, professional massage therapists use sleep or even drooling as a sign of a job well done. Don’t take it as an insult – she’s just really into what you’re doing! Kudos!
Published: 28 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Sex feels awesome but it’s actually incredibly good for you too! Research proves that a close, healthy relationship and good sex life is crucial to both our emotional and physical wellbeing. Sex is a crucial element of a relationship no matter how a couple has been together.
Making love is no luxury; it’s vital for your relationship to survive. We derive 25% of our total enjoyment of a relationship from sex…good, regular sex with the rest of your relationship in good shape. If you’re having bad sex, the other 75% of the relationship that was good, is cancelled out.
If your sex life is on the skids, it spills into the rest of the relationship and poisons everything.
What differentiates good friends from lovers? Sex!
Today, when we see friends separately and share ourselves with same- and opposite-sex friends, sex is the one thing we tend to do exclusively with our partner.
Good sex builds a close, intimate relationship and smoothens over the rough parts.
Sex is good for us, both physically and mentally. It decreases stress, boosts our immunity and gives us a sense of well being.
when having satisfying, regular sex, we feel loved and nurturedMore relaxed with each other and prepared to put up with more.
Stop having good sex and you stop feeling connected to your partner.
Feeling loved, accepted and attractive is key to our happiness, a crucial factor for good health.
If your partner doesn’t want to make love to you, you don’t feel sexy or attractive.
Trouble arises…your self-esteem plummets, sexual frustration makes you irritable, and resentment makes you get angry over inconsequential things .
Without sex, intimacy disappears.
Both of you feel increasingly isolated. You start fantasizing about others. You may even take it further and have an affair, rr you may exit the relationship.
Bad sex really is bad news. Put the relationship first and sex last and you lose the most effective way of nourishing yourself and each other. Give it the same importance as the relationship itself and everything falls into place much more easily. I’m not saying you should expect great sex all the time. Sometimes career and children have to take priority, and all couples go through phases when sex isn’t as good. Just don’t ever give up on trying to make it as good as humanly possible.
Sex doesn’t just provide a physical release, it also positively affects every part of us!
Orgasms are good for you!
Regular sex not only makes you look younger, orgasms can extend your life because of its effects on the heart and immune system.
Sex is good for your body, mental health and relationship as it makes you feel connected to another. Feeling loved, accepted and attractive is vital for our happiness.
Couples who have regular sex are happier, healthier and more energetic than their less intimate counterparts.
Sex releases endorphins and a brain chemical (PEA) , inducing lightheartedness.
Levels of the hormone oxytocin rise 500% during sex, making us feel relaxed.
Regular, satisfying sex boosts the immune system. The benefits include fewer colds, lustrous hair, clean, bright eyes, good muscle tone, great skin. And it does burn 80 calories per intercourse session.
Good sex is a natural anti-depressant and there is evidence it helps us to live longer.
Orgasm boosts immunity, wards off colds and infections and sexually active people are less prone to depression and suicide.
For her
Orgasms boost the female sex hormone oestrogen, which improves your mood.
It also releases endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers and depression fighters. Menstrual cramps and PMT disappear!
They bond you to your partner. Oxytocin, a hormone which promotes feelings of intimacy, jumps to 5 times its normal level during climax.
They help you sleep. Oxytocin also makes you feel sleepy. Men drift off a few minutes after orgasm, women usually fall asleep 20-30 minutes later.
They make you less stressed. Twenty minutes of intercourse releases the lust-enhancing hormone dopamine, triggering a relaxation response which lasts up to two hours.
Using a vibrator solo is the quickest way for a woman to orgasm. UK research found about 70% of women own one and and sex therapists report they are the most reliable source of orgasms for women worldwide.
For him
Longer Life: men who have 2 or more orgasms weekly tend to live longer than those who have only one or none.
Healthy hearts: men who have 3 or more orgasms weekly are 50% less prone to die from coronary heart disease.
Good health: having sex once or twice weekly also fights off viruses by strengthening the immune system.
Published: 29 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ]
Sigmund Freud defined just two types of female orgasm (vaginal and clitoral) but our scientific knowledge has clearly advanced since then. Dr. Masters and Virginia Johnson studied thousands of women having orgasms in their lab, exploring the physiological aspects of the ‘sexual response cycle’. Many people have since come up with a variety of models of the female orgasm. An excellent way to learn about the many kinds of female orgasm is to have a variety of lovers, and various types of sexual experiences. After all, every sex partner has a different set of sexual skills, styles and assets. And, of course, every sex partner has their limitations.
Note that no two orgasms are exactly alike.
One orgasm is no better than another; they are simply different.
Dream-gasms…In the 50′s,the infamous ‘Kinsey Report’ found that 37% of American females had experienced dreams which led to orgasm by the age of 45. These require absolutely no genital stimulation. Sometimes women simply wake up and are in orgasm. Sometimes we dream we are having orgasm and we have one at the same time. Sometimes we only dream of one but it’s orgasmic in a non-physical or less physical way. Dream-gasms sometimes occur with strong vaginal and anal contractions, and sometimes not. They can feel like a clitoral orgasm, or an energy orgasm. They are extremely pleasurable. Sometimes a full bladder can trigger such orgasms.
Micro-gasms…These are small, subtle orgasms that occur without physical stimulation. They can take various forms. If we focus on our erotic energy body, and visualize the orgasmic flow inside us, we can physically feel orgasmic waves pulse through our bodies and feel the “tension and release” on a subtle level. It’s similar to the idea that ‘enlightenment is within us’. If we focus, we can bring about spiritual feelings. Orgasm is within us. If we focus, we can bring about orgasmic feelings. It’s as if when we focus on our cells multiplying we can feel the cells having orgasms. ‘Cellular-gasms.’ Also, if we focus on our autonomic nervous system we can feel bioenergetic reactions, where the body begins twitching on its own. This can be super orgasmic. If when we are sneezing we eroticize the sneeze, we can transmute it into an orgasm. When we get chills, we can eroticize the feelings and turn them into orgasms. In sensual massage, the goosebumps that occur from this kind of orgasm are called “orga-bumps”. Micro-gasms can also occur while doing pleasurable activities—walking in the wind, laying in the sun, singing on stage, etc. There has been scientific study on energy orgasm, such as a study on “thinking off” in the lab-to see if women could have orgasms without genital stimulation. They found that it did occur and that some women achieved satisfying orgasms without the characteristic contractions of the orgasmic platform. You can simply lie down, doing nothing but focussing on erotic physical feelings and then begin to twitch and shake, with “kriyas” (a yogic term), and go into full body orgasmic ecstasy. These kinds of orgasms can easily be taught. They reside just below our surface, and we just need to relax and let them bubble up.
Inter-Vaginal Orgasms…Vaginal, g-spot and cervical orgasms are orgasms that happen inside the vagina with inter-vaginal stimulation (fingers, fists, dildos, penises). Each orgasm feels slightly different, and sometimes they occur together. Some inter-vaginal orgasms are subtle; some overwhelming. Many women are having various kinds of inter-vaginal orgasms all the time, but don’t acknowledge them because they are expect them to feel like clitoral orgasms. Many feminists believe that clitoral orgasms are the superior orgasms. They want to set the record straight after Freud misled so many women (and men). Sex educator Betty Dodson doesn’t consider g-spot or vaginal orgasms valid orgasms. G-spot orgasms can happen with or without ejaculation. (Ejaculation can also occur without orgasm). Cervical orgasms often occur with fisting. One can feel a huge tension release deep in the gut. They are almost like belly orgasms. Often vaginal orgasms can occur without a climax.
Breath & Energy Orgasms…It’s a sad oversight that western culture does not acknowledge or practice these kinds of orgasms. Breath and energy orgasms are wonderful, satisfying and mind-blowing. They are easily learned. This kind of orgasm is an energy- generation model, as opposed to a tension-release model. Often these kinds of orgasms are taught and enjoyed by Neo-Tantric people. During the “Wave”, one undulates erotically, thus activating the cerebral spinal fluid and orgasmic reflex. In the Native American version, the Fire breath Orgasm (not the yoga exercise the Breath of Fire), one lays down and breathes up through the chakras. I myself teach Breath and Energy Orgasm as well as the Cobra Breath Orgasm. Some practitioners can generate at will what is perhaps the most intense kind of energy orgasm, the “Kundalini orgasm”. They practice this for a lifetime(s) and achieve amazing feats. They also warn of the dangers of these extremely strong orgasms. Kundalini orgasms can also be healing, transformative, and enlightening. Breath and energy orgasms can occur from conscious, rhythmic, deep breathing, or other ways of generating energy in the body such as swimming, running, risk taking, listening to music. Basically a person learns how to build energy with thought, kegals, undulation, visualization, surrender, etc. Once the energy is built, it kicks into a release phase, which can be mild or extremely intense. Squeezing the PC muscles helps eroticize the energy and pump it the body for a more full-bodied effect. This category can include anger-gasms and laugh-gasms—where an intense emotional release is ‘orgasmicized’. Physiologically, these are similar to clitoral and vaginal orgasms, with increased breath rates, with flushes, increased heart rate, sweaty palms and feet. They can be very physically intense, with feelings like you are plugged into an electrical socket. Enormous tingling sensations in hands, feet and lips, eyeballs rolling back into the head, back arches, and orgasm sounds can also occur.
Clitoral Orgasms…Experts all agree that women can have clitoral orgasms. The clitoris is stimulated, muscular tension builds, and then vaginal contractions and a release of energy occur. These can take place very localized just in the clitoris, or the feelings can spread up into the belly and groin and over the whole body. They can be small or massive. Clitoral orgasms can be ‘extended’. Masters and Johnson found what they coined “status orgasmus”, orgasms which lasted 20 to more than 60 seconds. Masters and Johnson definitely didn’t measure orgasms of the masters. Some women can have repeated clitoral orgasms lasting for many minutes in a row. A woman can have clitoral orgasms without a ‘climax’. But a clitoral climax always comes with an orgasm. There are multiple clitoral orgasms, and also possible are multiple clitoral climaxes. There are very deep clitoral orgasms, and surface clitoral orgasms.
Combination-gasms…Sometimes a woman can only experience one kind of orgasm, in one part of her body, in one way. But often two or more kinds of orgasm are combined in succession or in tandem. These can be in any combination. During one sex session, a lucky woman may experience all 7 kinds of orgasm! Indeed, energy orgasms are almost always connected with clitoral or vaginal orgasms.
Mega-gasms…These are the tsunami of all orgasms…an intense full body experience, deeply emotional and intensely spiritual. It generally lasts an extended lengthy of time, from 30 seconds to up to an hour or two. Mega-gasms have been captured on video but this is an extremely rare event. Not that many women are capable of letting go that deeply or handling that much pleasure and ecstasy and orgasmic energy. Mega-gasms are brought on by intense physical stimulation…hard intercourse combined with a strong vibrator on the clitoris, with vaginal and clitoral stimulation. Sometimes discomfort or pain can trigger one. The stimulation goes way beyond normal love making, into surrendering to intense physical force and massive genital manipulation (can also include kissing, nipple sucking, bondage, dark tantra). It helps to have an ‘orgasm midwife’, someone who is totally present that can manage and handle the incredible intensity of such orgasms. The face of the woman having the orgasm can severely contort just as if in labour. There’s also a massive ego surrender. Mega-gasms can come with past life recalls, and intense visual imagery. A pent up well of energy and emotions seems to burst free. They are primal with sensations of being ‘breathed by the universe’, like you’re a channel for orgasmic energy, open for the life force to pass through you.
Bottom Line..Research on orgasm to date has mostly involved defining what orgasm is. However, we must expand our concepts of orgasm. Interview the orgasm experts…those women who have had extra-ordinary experience with orgasm. Many women assume that if an orgasm isn’t a clitoral orgasm, then it doesn’t count. They thus limit themselves. Expanding our concept of orgasm opens mind and body to experiencing new things. With proper instruction and with practice they become more conscious and clear. Then, we can all enjoy healthier, more orgasmic lives, filled with ecstasy.
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