| 0 |
  |
|
Questions and Answers |
| Published: 3 days ago [ submited by Avi Answers ] |
1) Many women report that they have difficulty having an orgasm during sex with a partner. What could you tell a woman who has this issue? What products, if any, might you suggest and why?
First off, I would tell her that many women have difficulty having an orgasm during sex for a variety of different reasons. She is not alone. This is a completely common concern and has no reflection on either partner’s performance in the bedroom, nor their affection towards each other. One reason that women have this issue is due to pressure to orgasm. Just like a male-bodied person may have difficulties maintaining erections when pressured, women can be distracted or too flustered to orgasm if there is too much attention on the matter at hand. I would suggest practicing taking deep breaths and communicating with her partner about what is going on in her mind. Nerves can be pretty off putting and a stressed out body means clenched muscles and an unhappy body. She needs to feel at ease to be aroused, to which communication can help. I suggest practicing foreplay with the partner, and if that is already happening, extending it. A nice massage and heavy petting can really help relax the body. For this I would suggest a Rub Me bar or any other massage product. Small toys like a Fingo or a Pleasurette may help to stimulate arousal while still enjoying some intimate foreplay action. Avoiding jumping right into sex is also a great benefactor of foreplay, as it lets the body get comfortable with different touches and sensations and extends the sexual session. Another reason that some women have trouble having orgasms is because they expect orgasms during sex to be the same as orgasms during solo play. In Sex for One the idea of mutual masturbation is brought up as a way to show your partner how you cause arousal and pleasure in your solo play, which can lead to ideas of how to incorporate it into the bedroom. How can a partner know what turns you on if you don’t tell them? Make sure to also learn from their own solo play practices, because arousal goes both ways! Orgasms are generated differently depending on the location of arousal, for example clitoral verse vaginal stimulation. A large majority of women can orgasm through clitoral stimulation, which is often ignored during penetrative sex. I would suggest stimulating the clitoris during penetration, using fingers, partner’s fingers, or a vibrator. If you have a favorite vibrator that you use in personal play, it would be a great addition with your partner. If this is the first time you are bringing a vibrator into the bedroom I would suggest something small and quiet that does not distract or take away from the sex. Again something like a Pleasurette, or the Form line by Jimmy Jane would be great toys that are small enough to be pressed into the palm of the hand or against each other’s bodies. I would also strongly suggest reading materials like The Multi Orgasmic series or I <3 Female Orgasm. Informative guides can give the individual a much better idea of what is going on with their sex lives than any person can.
2) A customer says that she’s heard about the G-spot, but doesn’t know anything about it. What are two things that you would tell her about the G-spot?
The first thing I would say is that the G-Spot does exist, but people respond to it differently. Many women think they do not have a G-Spot because they cannot “find it”. Fact is, G-spot stimulation and response is different for every person, so you may be playing with it and not even know! Many women build up in their head what G-spot stimulation is supposed to feel like, but the fact is that some people love it, and some people don’t. The G-spot is an area of tissue about two to three inches inside the upper floor of the vaginal canal that is very sensitive and can cause sexual orgasm for some. For some people when it is stimulated it can feel like there is a lot of pressure happening inside their vaginas, which can be pleasurable, and for others it can feel uncomfortable, as if they have to pee. The best thing with any sexual exploration is to relax and take your time. I would suggest putting aside some time with yourself or with your partner for G-spot exploration.
The second thing I would say is that the G-spot responds to pressure, more so than vibrations. Whilst vibrations are enjoyable, just vibrating it will not stimulate the G-spot. A good technique to find it is to insert fingers or a toy and pull gently towards the belly button. In Expert Guide to the G-Spot Tristan Taeromino refers to this as a “come here” motion with your fingers. She also suggests using toys that have a strong hook and when having it inserted, make sure that the hook is pointing towards the belly button. In the GV Guide to the G-Spot the importance of sexual arousal is brought up in regards to finding the G-Spot. The G-Spot is most sensitive and reactive when the vagina is aroused, so foreplay before searching is highly recommended.
3) A customer says that he’s interested in exploring BDSM. Name two books that you might recommend to him and why you chose them. One book I would recommend is SM 101 by Jay Wiseman. First off, Jay Wiseman is a great community figure and his book, though slightly outdated, is a great overall of a wide range of topics. As a community figure, Jay knows what he is talking about. It is also written from a personal narrative and not factual and hard to read. It reads as if you are having a conversation with him. I also really appreciated how personal the book was and how you can tell that his advice comes from experience. It also gives you space to jot down your thoughts about the topics that he brings up, which really makes reading the book seems more like having a conversation with him. Another book that I would recommend is The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy by Violet Blue. The book explores and demystifies the world of sexual fantasy and lets the readers explore their own sexual fantasies without judgment or reprehension. What I really appreciated about the book was that she brings up ideas as well as explanations in regards to fantasies, and does so on such a wide range of topics. The book explores fantasies that can be acted up, and the taboo, and gives suggestions on how to play with certain fantasies without harming yourself or others as well as breaking any laws. I also really appreciated the stories that were placed in between sections that gave example to how the fantasy can be thought about and practiced.
4) List three things that you might tell a customer who has never tried anal sex and is curious about it. First off, I would tell the customer that though there is much controversy and debate over the topic of anal play, it is totally safe and fun, if done properly. Of my three tips for customers, I would tell them to communicate, relax, and don’t be afraid to use lots of lube, as well as other safer sex supplies. Communication is very key in any type of sexual play, but especially when attempting anal play. Anal sex can be physically painful if there is no communication, as well as emotional. Approaching anal sex is an intimate topic and there may be some mixed feelings about it! People who have been raise thinking it is a sin may even have guilt! Both parties can end up with a negative experience if they do not talk. In the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women partner communication is a very key aspect before approaching anal play. Anal play for either partner can be an enlightening as well as sexually empowering experience. My second tip would be to relax. The anus can tighten due to stress, things cannot be inserted, and if attempted can cause a painful experience. I would advise the person to relax as much as possible when exploring with the anus. Practicing pushing the anus open is a good way to get in the right mindset, since it gets the anus ready for some type of interaction. In Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Anal Sex she talks about the importance of lubricant, and repeats many times that you can never have enough. Therefore, my third tip would be to use lots of lube! A good water-based gel will help lubrication for insertion as well as provide a protective cushion for the anal walls. In addition to lube, I would recommend using safer sex items such as gloves or condoms when inserting things like fingers or toys. They create an easy cleaning opportunity in case things get dirty, or you do not want to have to rush from the room to clean. Just slip them off and throw away!
5) A customer wants to buy her first dildo and harness. What are two things that you would tell her? The first thing I would tell her when picking a dildo is to think about what she and her partner would like. This may seem like an obvious answer, but many times what one partner likes is not in fact what the other person does. A toy can be too large or too realistic looking, or not something that one partner finds very sexy. Communicating with your partner about what type of toy you are looking for can really enhance your experience. For example, if you specifically want to explore prostate stimulation, I would suggest picking out something curved in order to hit the prostate. The same goes for g-spot stimulation. In The Adventurous Couple’s Guide To Sex Toys picking out toys is seen as a couples activity, and can be seen as a type of foreplay for later sexy encounters. For buying her first harness I would recommend a style where you can switch out rings as well as choose whether or not to have a back panel and one that has adjustable straps. The reason behind this is because you can switch up different toys as well as explore and adjust where you want the toy to sit on your body. I would also suggest trying on a harness and seeing how you like the fit! Harnesses are like pants, and you can’t tell how you look or feel in them unless you actually try them on.
6) What are two common sexual concerns or issues faced by older people? What would you suggest to someone who is facing them?
In the book Still Doing It many of the stories involved the concern that as one ages, they will become less sexual. Many of the writers disagree with this statement, stating that they are still sexual and sexually active and enjoy many, if not all of the same activities as they did when they were younger. Some do note that sex does seem to change as the body does, but it doesn’t mean that sex is not fun. Certain positions or action may be a little more difficult, but with negotiation and discussion sex can still remain just as fun! Sex is evolving, and though it may change, it is still sex and the person is still a sexual being, no matter what their age. What I would suggest to someone who is facing this problem is to explore various forms of sexual arousal, whether during solo play or with a partner. Honestly I would also suggest books like Still Doing It where there are personal stories that the person may relate to. Another common concern is around the embarrassment of the body not performing the same functions are they used to do. For example, an ageing male-bodied person may not be able to have erections quite as often or at all. This can cause embarrassment, which can lead to him avoiding having any sexual interactions at all. What I suggest to someone who is facing them is to talk to their partner as well as other people their own age. These “problems” are not unique, they are just not discussed. Looking into other forms of sexual performance, like instead of having an erection, using a dildo on a partner, would also be something that I would suggest
7) Many of our customers have questions about Tantra. How would you describe Tantra to them?
Tantra is a spiritual sexual connection between and mind and the body. Its actual definition varies depending on the person and their background with the topic, but a majority of the time it will be related back to spirituality and sexuality. In Tantric Sex for Women the author discusses how Tantra can be both a partner experience, as well as an individual one. One of the reason Tantric practices is great is that they are not meant for specific genders or sexual orientations. Tantra can be practiced by anybody and to whatever level one aspires to. A large part of Tantric practice is focused on the movement of energy, whether it is through your body or from one partner to another. Sexual energy can be found all over the body, and is not just focused on the genitals. This is a great practice for people who want a spiritual connection to sex and who want to incorporate meditation and relaxation into their sexual lives.
|
322 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
We are people too |
| Published: 4 days ago [ submited by Avi Answers ] |
Recently I had a bit of an uncomfortable situation having to do with my job.
I found a yoga studio near my work and introduced myself to the instructor as well as told him where I worked. He smiled and welcomed me, and I joined the group for some sweaty, bendy, out of shape fun. While we were doing a position where I was standing with my legs spread, bending over he started walking around doing a punching massage motion into class members gluteal muscles. When he got to me and started punching my butt (which felt awesome) he chuckled and asked “Do you guys have spanking benches downstairs?”
Woah
There are many factors that bug me about this situation, and believe me I have been mulling over this interaction for days. Here I was in this very physically vulnerable position and a stranger who I trusted to be my instructor came over and made a very inapropriate comment. Making a sexual comment towards a yoga student whilst touching them in an intimate area is not okay. The instructor was in a position of power and the as a student I trusted him. Yoga is a place to relax and meditate on the day, it is a safe space, not a place to feel uncomfortable. I understand that he was making a joke, and probably didn’t mean for it to come out as sleazy as it did, but I can’t fight the felling this this was not an okay situation. Some people will argue that since I work in the sex industry, it must be okay to say sexual things to me. After all, isn’t that part of my job?
Bottom line? No, it is not okay. Sex shop workers, sex industry members, porn stars, prostitutes, all of us deserve the same respect as everyone else. Like everyone else, when we are off the clock, we are not working and therefore should be treated as such.
I wrote him an email explaining all this, and then told him I was finding another studio. I don’t know what I expect to get out of the email, but I feel like he needed to be told that sex shop workers are people too.
|
340 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Bringing Your Daughter into Sex Shops for the First Time |
| Published: 5 days ago [ submited by Avi Answers ] |
This post is focused on the case of mothers bring their daughters (who are over 18) into adult shops for the first time. This is a much more common parent child combination verses mother and son, daughter and father, etc, at least in my experience. Sometimes these interactions are awkward, sometimes they are a great learning experience, and sometimes they are damaging. I think it’s important for parents to think about certain aspects before taking their adult child into a sex shop.
Before bringing your daughter into the shop, think about whether or not she actually wants to go in. It would be best to talk about it before hand, and discuss what you expect to get out of it. Is this supposed to be educational? Funny? Does she intend on purchasing anything, or is this a walk around? This may sound silly and overly precautious, but springing a surprise trip to the vibrator store on your teenage daughter can be a very traumatizing thing. I once saw a mother literally drag her daughter by her arm into the shop and then announce to the staff that this is her first time in. The girl covered her face with her hands and stayed deadly quiet as her mother twisted her arm around the shop and explained what these buzzing things were. I can almost assure you that the daughter will not return to a shop for a very long time. An adult shop is for people who can behave like adults, parent and child included. It is not appropriate to force a daughter, no matter if she’s 18 or 48 to come into a store without her consent.
Do you really want to know this much personal information about her, and/or does she want you to know? Sex is an intimate thing, and sex shops are there to help inform you about pleasure and explore your sexuality. Some parents don’t want to know how their children express their sexual desires, just like some children don’t want their parents to know how and and why they have sex. I have had mothers bring in their daughters to buy a sex toy, but when the daughter starts to explain what she likes, the mother freaks out. When people start to freak out over other peoples sexual preferences, it creates a sense of shame for the person who just expressed it. I had a daughter explain to me that she wasn’t having orgasms during sex and wanted something for external stimulation. When her mother heard this she started freaking out by giggling and making perverted jokes to her daughter. The daughter stopped asking questions and chuckled uncomfortably. The daughter was feeling shame, just as much as her mother was feeling uncomfortable. Needless to day, both of them didn’t buy anything, nor ask any more educational questions.
I once saw a mother daughter interaction where they came in together, asked some questions, separated for a while for private shopping, and then reunited at the end. The mother didn’t ask questions about her daughters intentions with the things she purchased, and the daughter in turn didn’t feel shamed for being there. Sex toys weren’t forced upon her and instead were seen as a positive addition to her sexual exploration.
Think about what you want out if the trip before you shop!
|
375 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Preparing yourself for a Tantra Massage Session |
| Published: 6 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
 |
| Spiritual, mental and physical preparation is a key component of Tantra. |
The experience is greatly enhanced if you enter the session with an open heart, conscious awareness and available body. Whether, consciously or unconsciously, the preparation begins even before your scheduled appointment. You should establish a clear intention for the impending Tantric session. Remember that the path of Tantra is both spiritual as well as sensual. Tantra explores our sexuality and sensuality as a conscious meditation. The act of setting your intention creates an opening for the session to unfold naturally and in harmony with the physical, erotic and cosmic energies contained within you. You will want to prepare your mind, body and spirit for the experience. For a first-time receiver, the act of opening all parts of your body (including the most sacred areas) to exploration and stimulation can be a life-changing experience.
 |
Think of this as a date with yourself.
Make the space and take time for yourself.
You do not have to please anyone but yourself.
Have no preoccupations nor appointments close to the session.
After the session, you may want to relax and even sleep.
|
Avoid cell phones, and other distractions, so your mind can be free of worry.
Move with your breath, so sensations and excitement circulate into the whole body.
NOTE: When you are at the point of experiencing full body orgasm (not ejaculation), – visualize your desires, what you want to change in your life, what you want to achieve; i.e., develop more harmony in your life, become a more orgasmic woman or man.
Then, when you release at that orgasmic moment, your visualizations imprint onto your subconscious and into the universe and it returns back into your reality (Law of Attraction)
Relax be open, imagine that you are receiving infinite love from the universe.
Remember; when you are getting close to the full body orgasm (energetic not ejaculation) always breathe deeply, if anything blocks your mind it will go away.
You are totally safe In my compassionate, expert hands. JUST keep breathing; any built up pressure or discomfort will go away.
An intensely pleasurable experience, it is beautiful, erotic and sensuous…all at once.
Close your eyes…now feel the inner bliss taking you somewhere else.
To really understand tantra, you need to be turning yourself on. Tantra is something you get for your own self-satisfaction to add to your life (like yoga, meditation or working out). You learn to get in touch with your inner sexuality. You will enjoy exploring some erogenous zones that that you may never have developed before or were too shy to consider.
When practicing G-spot, Prostate healing or Body Energetic Touch, breathe deeply. Let your partner know that you are enjoying the sensations running through your body. Push your muscles, like you learn in the PC muscle exercise. Let go of the flow, release your muscles, clear your mind and enjoy the pleasures of your G-spot or Prostate healing or Body Energetic Touch. If you feel discomfort, hold on for few minutes, after that it is pure ecstasy.
Practice tantra once a week or as often your lifestyle permits.
It will change your life!
You will feel lighter, ecstatic and divinely happy.
|
377 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Embracing Cosmic Law…The Boundless Love of Goddess Shakti-Isis |
| Published: 6 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |

1. Ask the Goddess to align your mind, body ands spirit with Her Will and Essence in and for you. 2. Ask to be shown anything in you that opposes Her Essence andWill, and release it absolutely to the Goddess to be transmuted. 3. Know and feel that the Will of the Goddess is Absolute. Breathe in the Love of the Goddess until your body feels clear of resistance and totally calm , simply buzzing with Shakti Delight. 4. Now go deep within your Being and find your most intense yearning. Feel it within your every cell, honour it with everything in you. 5. Invoke the Essence and Light of the Goddess. Ask that this yearning bestrengthened and purified for the Highest Good, in line with Her Will, in the spirit of divine cooperation with the Earth and all beings. 6. In the name of the Goddess Shakti-Isis, ask that this purified yearning manifest itself in your life. Feel and envision how it feels when this occurs. 7. Breathe. Let go and let the Goddess. Re-enter your day-to-day reality in faith. 8. Whenever there is any physical resistance, fear or thought ofimpossibility, stop whatever you are doing and repeat this process. 9. Watch your yearning manifest. See it unfold. Offer up thanks. Praise theUniverse’s most loving, tender, creative Power. Know the Goddess Shakti-Isis in you! 10. As your yearning starts to manifest beyond your ownmost cherished dreams, share yourself, your gifts and joy with others,supporting their dreams and visions.

|
295 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
How The 7 Natural Laws of Love Merge with The 7 Natural Laws of the Universe |
| Published: 7 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
Love takes no position, and thus is global, rising above separation.
It’s then possible to be ‘with one another,’ for there are no longer any barriers. Love is therefore inclusive and expands the sense of self progressively. Love focuses on the goodness of life in all its expressions and augments that which is positive—it dissolves negativity by re-contextualizing it, rather than by attacking it.
~ David Hawkins, Power vs. Force
The 7 Natural Laws of Love
1. Love is its own Law Let love be your guiding principle. When in doubt, listen to your heart. Never allow mental concepts, beliefs, or assumptions that are not based on love to dictate your behavior.
2. The Law of Source
You are the source of love. The love inside you is abundant and eternal. There is no need to beg, control, or compromise in order to be loved.
3. The Law of Attraction
The more you focus on love and gratitude, the more you will be surrounded by love. If you complain, blame, and dwell on fear, you just attract others who are also resentful, angry, and fearful.
4. The Law of Unity
Love knows neither borders nor boundaries. Love includes everyone and everything. Love takes no position, rising above separation. Find unity within by resolving the conflicts inside yourself and you won’t have to act them out with another.
5. The Law of Truth
Telling your truth about who you are and what you are feeling and thinking should be your foundation. Vulnerable self-disclosure allows for empathy and understanding. The more truth is shared the more love grows.
6. The Law of Consciousness
Love is a state of consciousness available only when you’re willing to relinquish your defenses. Protection is a barrier to love. Love cannot be given or taken but it can be shared. The vibration of love in you is often stimulated when you come into contact with one who carries it.
7. The Law of Forgiveness
It’s fine to make mistakes. Few humans can love perfectly. If you forgive yourself and others generously, you will always have a second chance. Focus more on giving than getting and you will have much less forgiving to do.
The 7 Natural Laws of the Universe
|
1. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation
* Energy moves into physical form.
* Your mental images most often materialize into results in your life.
2. The Law of Relativity
* Nothing is good or bad, big or small, until you RELATE it to something.
* If you practice relating your situation to something far worse, yours will always look better.
3. The Law of Vibration and Attraction
* Everything vibrates, nothing rests.
* Conscious awareness of vibration is called feeling. Your thoughts control your paradigms and your vibration (which dictates what you attract).
* When you feel poorly, become aware of what you are thinking, then think of something pleasant.
4. The Law of Polarity
* Everything has an opposite: Hot/Cold; Up/Down; Good/Bad.
* Constantly look for the good in people and situations. When you find it, tell the person. People love compliments and such positive ideas in your mind makes\ you feel good. Remember, good ideas lead to good vibrations.
5. The Law of Rhythm
* The tide goes out … night follows day … good times – bad times.
* When you are on a down swing, do not feel bad. Know the swing will change and things will get better. There are good times coming; think of them.
6. The Law of Cause and Effect
* Whatever you send into the Universe comes back. Action and Re-action are equal and opposite.
* Say good things to everyone; treat everyone with total respect and it will all come back. Never worry about what you are going to get, focus rather on what you can give.
7. The Law of Gender
* Every seed has a gestation or incubation period. Ideas are spiritual seeds and will move into form or physical results.
* Your goals will manifest when the time is right. KNOW they will.
 |
Why are all these Natural Laws combined so vital to followers of the Tantric Path?
It is because you can use mindfulness and employ these Natural Laws of Love and Natural Laws of The Universe to bring happiness and prosperity into every aspect of your life; overall health, relationships (spiritual, family, personal, business), and finances.
|
|
405 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Do Nice Guys Ignore the Girls They Like? |
| Published: 10 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
This bit of humour comes from Buzzfeed, but many guys would call it 100% accurate. Women may call them jerks but they still go for them anyway. If women didn’t show interest, these guys wind be forced to stop acting so nasty to have sex. Do women force nice guys into last place?
A fair number of young males are just as frustrated in their search to find meaningful relationships. One of my clients said that when he went to college and acted like the great guy he really is, he got nowhere with the opposite sex. Not until he assumed the identity of self-centred egomaniac did he start scoring points with women
This post is dedicated to undiscerning women everywhere, guilty of sending men the message that they must be cruel and uncaring in order to get anywhere with them. You know who you are. Do you know why you do it? I have encountered many fantastic women who got blindsided by a bad boy once or twice. Butg after that, you have a lot to answer for.
The British have a saying: ”Be mean, keep ‘em keen.” Why are we shooting ourselves in the foot time and again?
The most common reasons why women date guys who treat them poorly:
Jerks have many qualities that are attractive to women.
- There’s the mystery surrounding a troubled soul or an enigmatic rebel.
- They exude confidence, though upon closer inspection it is really arrogance.
- They are extraverts.
- They have a lot of charm, i.e. player skills.
- They appear passionate. Usually, they are most passionate about fulfilling their own needs.
- Their intense pursuit is flattering and makes women feel special and desirable.
- Women feel that any love worth having should be earned first.
- They enjoy outplaying a guy (or trying to) at his own game.
- Jerks keep us guessing; we can’t decipher them.
- On the flip side, nice guys are boring and predictable.
Women have a “fixer-upper” complex.
- They look into a guy’s soul and see more than he is showing of himself, and they become hooked on the idea of getting him to open up.
- A flawed man gives this type of woman someone to work on and mold. They wind up viewing the jerk as someone who is misunderstood and unloved, a lurking lonely soul.
It’s emotional.
- Women feel excited, disappointed, and confused. The rush of emotions is exciting and addictive.
- The process inevitably follows this pattern:
1. Jerk shows interest. 2. When woman returns interest, jerk draws back and appears nonchalant. 3. Jerk waits until woman is confused, then provides attention. 4. Repeat.
Weak women attract jerks.
- A jerk never wastes his time on a woman he knows respects herself. He preys on the vulnerable.
- It requires two parties with low self-esteem. The jerk uses a bad boy demeanor as his cover. His snide remarks and sarcasm are defense mechanisms.
Selfish women choose jerks.
- They are just as shallow, prioritizing pursuit and excitement over a real connection.
Women subconsciously replicate their childhoods.
- If a key male figure in your life was a jerk, you will invariably seek out jerks for relationships as an adult.
Dating a jerk is the best way to avoid a long-term relationship.
- Until you are ready to settle down with a decent man to start a family, why not have fun with a jerk? Maybe even be a jerk?
It’s a vicious cycle.
- Women are attracted to jerks, form relationships with them, and then try to justify their choice by seeing things in them that nobody else can.
Do these reasons ring true or is something else going on? Carole Lieberman, MD, co-author of Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them, and When to Leave Them says:
“They can be unpredictable, dishonest, or downright mean, but scoundrels have always had an undeniable appeal to us–an erotic edge of danger that’s hard to resist.”
As long as women choose jerks, some decent men may convert to jerkdom, especially if they’ve been dumped for a jerk. Nice guys who admit to employing this strategy don’t like it much; they say it’s exhausting to act like a jerk all the time.
So, ladies, why not give that decent guy you know a break? Look deeper. Don’t settle. Respect yourself. Every Goddess on earth will thank you for it.
|
357 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Why True Tantra is the Path of Love |
| Published: 10 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
 |
| Sex is behind everything, but love is behind sex. The conversion of sex into love, the conversion of the raw God into the God of love, that’s what our job is. Or what’s the spiritual life about if it’s not about converting sex into love? Sex is all there is , until it turns to love. ~ Barry Long |
What is true Tantra? This has been asked by many in the West where so much Neo-Tantra is being taught.
Tantra as taught in India and Tibet is vastly different then the Tantra taught here in the West. In those cultures Tantric teachings determine how one is in life on a daily basis. For many, it is a doctrine to live by, not a religion but a definite doctrine.
 |
| In the West, Tantra was introduced as a way to have better sex as the sexual revolution gave rise to women and men craving more knowledge about sex and spirit. This concept of a sexual-spiritual connection ran counter to what Judeo/Christian ideologies had traditionally taught. |
Prior to the 60’s and the sexual revolution, sex had been linked to love; i.e., one was NOT supposed to have sex without first being in love. Then the flower children and the women’s liberation movement came and suddenly we were permitted to have sex anytime, anywhere and with anyone. It suddenly became acceptable to see it as recreation, sport and entertainment. Indeed, sex was fine for the sheer pleasure of it, love did not even have to enter into it.
Then, as HIV/AIDS became an epidemic, sex turned into something we had to be careful about. We could no longer just have a “zipless f*ck” as Erica Jong once put it, or engage with endless partners without taking the necessary precautions. Sex had became potentially dangerous.
It was at this time, just as we felt that we could no longer play the field so carelessly, that Sacred sex or Tantric sex began to be taught in the San Francisco Bay area. This new idea, that sexual union might have a purpose beyond something we did for pleasure, entertainment, or even to reproduce, took hold. These concepts, taught by such Tantric masters as Osho and Barry Long, were now saying that through conscious lovemaking a man or woman could attain mahamudra, oneness with all of life or enlightenment.
As a true spiritual path, Tantric lovemaking seeks to awaken the heart of God/Goddess within each of us. We practice by seeing the divine in our partner, the God or Goddess. We train ourselves to see into their soul, to uncover the Truth of their being, in so doing we ourselves are transformed. We gaze with unconditional love into our partner’s eyes and we see ourselves. We lose our individuality, our sense of separation, and we allow ourselves to merge into love, in union with this other SELF. We feel our oneness, maybe for the first time. Finally, we know ourselves to be Love.
|
360 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Tantra for Women…Explore your Inner Goddess! |
| Published: 11 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
 |
| The Goddess Isis is returning to earth! |
She is returning in each one of us who remembers that we are She.
She was lost when we went unconscious to Her during eons of repression, torture and prejudice for women who followed her.
We were lost one by one; now She returns as we find ourselves, one by one.
It’s awesome to see how much more Spirit blossoms in us with every passing year. So many women have been opening to higher vibrations of our inner feminine, and realizing that the Divine Feminine is the true source of healing for all that separates us from Her. As we allow Her to lovingly nurture us, we find ourselves brought back to our true, Authentic nature through associating with Hers.
In the healing sessions I facilitate, I lead women back into their Essence nature and coax them lovingly into taking ownership of their bodies, becoming sovereign in their lives. Repeatedly, I see women drop deep into their pain and feel their loss only to find that dropping down in, within the presence of Spirit, often means dropping on through to the essential nature beneath all wounds.
At our core, we can never be wounded for at our core we are the Divine Child, untouched by life. Who would you put outside God, beyond Goddess’s omnipresence? If yourself, why? Who else?
 |
| The Sacred Feminine refers to that mysterious source of all life, the wellspring of creation. The Big SHE. The Feminine Force that births both male and female forms. The circle that contains both yin and yang. The portal between the worlds. She is by nature indefinable, yet her presence has been experienced so tangibly by peoples of the Earth from the beginning of time, that She has been honored and deified in many forms, including Isis. |
We need to ask what it would be like to live as if dwell in the universe where the Goddess reigns Supreme. What if we operate as if She can return by our believing She is returning? What if we trust that the triple functions of Goddess as Creator, Preserver, Destroyer can handle the details? We vote for our reality by what we choose to think and share. Why not vote for the return of balance and peace and sanity by allowing our goddess nature to emerge from within? Through more than a thousand channelings, I have seen how feminine deities guide us so gently home to the love that we are, to the strength our soul holds for us, and to the knowledge we glean from lifetimes. Goddess Isis is witnessing about temples we are helping to return on earth. These temples are now developing and gravitate toward women who choose to live in these ancient ways. Wherever I find women who openly enjoy their High Priestess archetype, I find Tantra and conscious work with sexuality. Clearly, the veils between the worlds are thinner now, and it feels as if some veils have been lifted from my head as well, and others report the same. We may be breaking clear of the fog of the Piscean age into the clarity of sight that an Aquarian age can bring. Astrologers agree we’ll still feel the influence of three eclipses at the end of the Saturn-Pluto opposition in late May for at least six months. Deep changes are afoot, especially in the structure of how we do things, and new doors seem to be opening. I have the privilege of being guided in helping create a temple in which women can heal their sexuality and their relationship to being a woman and having a body. In private sessions that blend sensual/erotic openings with healthy boundaries and good communication skills, we learn to bring forward the Divine Lover archetype and develop skills to let her play through us in the world. When Goddess walked on earth through her priestesses, we would go to the temples of love to be taught about love and the arts of sustaining eros and sensuality. At each passage–menses, first love-making, committing to another, marriage, menopause-we were supported in the temple in learning the skills of romantic and sexual love and of intimacy. We held our original innocence for there was no inequality, no thought of harming another because harm was not done. Like Bali today, the sacred was a part of all of life.
As a dakini trained in the erotic and healing arts, I recreate these safe havens in which to learn the wisdom our ancestors passed on for generations. Women who have studied Tantra help new women open to the Inner Lover and widen their capacity for pleasure and ecstasy. The Goddess is smiling.
Om Shanti
|
|
|
345 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
TANTRIC LIFESTYLE…Curried Chicken Naan Sandwich |
| Published: 11 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
Boost your vitamin C with this unusual sandwich option.
For many, fending off a cold during the winter feels like a losing battle. First instincts may turn to tea and medicine, but there are sweeter ways to bear the coughs and sniffles when temperatures drop.
Increasing the amount of vitamin C in your diet is one of the easiest ways to hold strong during cold season. Just one 250 mL glass of 100% pure Florida orange or grapefruit juice provides a full day’s supply of vitamin C, which keeps you feeling good while tantalizing your tastebuds.
When cold season rolls around, bed rest and blankets seem inevitable. However, taking proper precautions such as increasing your Florida citrus intake can help support your immune system and ward off those nasty symptoms.
Vitamin C is an effective antihistamine that helps the cold-ridden feel better by minimizing inflammation, stuffy noses and uncomfortable aches. In addition, a glass of pink or red grapefruit juice offers the added benefit of beta-carotene, which is converted into vitamin A…a powerful antioxidant that improves and strengthens immune systems.
Staying healthy is not complicated. The easiest way to keep illness at bay is to get the vitamins necessary for holding steady throughout the cold months
Try this recipe to keep out the cold this season:
Curried Chicken Naan Sandwiches
Prep Time:15 minutes Cook Time:15 minutes
1 tbsp (15 mL) canola oil 1/2 cup (125 mL) diced red onion 2 cloves garlic, minced 12 oz (375 g) boneless skinless chicken breasts, diced (about 2 breasts) 2 tsp (10 mL) curry powder 1/2 tsp (2 mL) each ground coriander and turmeric 1 tbsp (15 mL) cornstarch 3/4 cup (175 mL) Florida orange juice 1/4 cup (50 mL) 0 per cent plain Greek yogurt 3 tbsp (45 mL) chopped fresh coriander 2 tbsp (30 mL) mango chutney Pinch each salt and pepper 2 large naan breads 1 cup (250 mL) baby spinach
In skillet heat oil over medium-high heat and cook onion and garlic for 3 minutes or until starting to soften.
Add chicken, curry powder, coriander and turmeric; cook, stirring for 2 minutes. Whisk cornstarch into orange juice and add to skillet; bring to boil. Reduce heat and simmer for about 5 minutes or until chicken is not pink inside.
Remove from heat; stir in yogurt, coriander, chutney, salt and pepper.
Spread mixture over 1 naan bread,top with spinach. Top with other naan and cut in 1/4′s to serve.
Makes 4 servings.
|
365 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Suggested Music for Tantric Practice |
| Published: 11 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
Recommended Music for the Practice of Tantra, Yoga, and Qigong
Music for Avishkara
|
360 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Wishing you a Happy Lunar New Year! |
| Published: 12 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
I would like to share my insights into this lucky dragon year..
With the help of the Water Dragon energy this is a good year to embody the words of Chief Seattle:
“This we know: the earth does not belong to man, man belongs to the earth. All things are connected like the blood that unites us all. Man did not weave the web of life, he is merely a strand in it. Whatever he does to the web, he does to himself.”
January 23, 2012 is the first day of the Chinese New Year, rather early this year: Dragon is very enthusiastic and eager to really get things going. Much will happen in 2012 with Dragon’s idealistic, all-encompassing and inclusive nature heralding exciting changes globally. Many well-meaning initiatives will be introduced to balance economies and assist nations; enterprising and fearless people will prosper when wisdom and kindness guide their actions. This is not the year of global calamity nor the end of the world. The end of TIME will be the beginning of the scientific understanding of eternal life, replacing beliefs in the limitations of biological aging.
The Chinese Dragon is an immense, mystical and benevolent creature whose head and tail cannot be seen simultaneously, so expect this year to end in completely different energy than it begins. Unpredictable and independent, irrepressible Dragon offers opportunities to dramatically change our luck. Hang on tight, eyes wide open for unexpected treasures magnanimously cast towards the wise, the optimistic, the quick-witted and the lucky.
In the universe, there is total abundance, and we must be able to tap into that total abundance. It is vital that we are aware of this and stay on a continual path of learning to access it.
A powerful time is upon us to listen to our hearts and act from a place of love. I have been deeply moved and inspired by all my friends, family and clients and wish you all continued growth, happiness, transformation and love! From my heart to your hearts and to all of the TANTRIC hearts everywhere.
Apparently, this is my brother’s year. My mother, who had previously unable to carry a pregnancy to term, said that around the time she believes her first-born was conceived. She had a dream of a majestic, shiny, bright, multi-coloured dragon on the ocean. In this dream, while everyone ran away in fear, she touched the dragon in peace and awe at its beauty.
Months later, my older brother was born, just a couple months after the Year of the Dragon began.
This year coincides with the water element, making it the Year of the Water Dragon.
The arrival of The Dragon invites us to entertain new transformational possibilities and let go of old patterns that no longer work. With a collective wave of renewal to inspire us, it is easy to get caught up in the idea of self improvement. But what if the Self didn’t need improving? What if we could accept that whatever we are is perfect and complete in the moment. Would this stop us from setting goals and taking on new projects? Maybe not, but we would take them on in a more empowered manner, with less anxiety.
The idea that we need to be “better” than we are, the pressure to create a “new and improved” self, may be just another cultural construct to keep us feeling discontented. This may tempt us to spend precious personal resources in an attempt to soothe the suspicion that something is “not quite right” with us.
Step back, take another look at yourself, unconditionally love what you see, instead of judging yourself, or others, to be in need of improvement. Relinquish the stories that say we are ‘too much’ of this or ‘not enough’ of something else. Cultivate satisfaction with what we are, right here, right now. Now that would be a powerful transformation!
A couple of years ago a client asked me what I thought was the most endearing aspect of humanity. It seemed an odd question. For several moments, I turned it over in my mind, when suddenly my mother’s smiling face appeared along with the memory of her gently nursing a dying kitten back to life. Instantly, I knew the answer. ”The most endearing aspect of humanity,” I said,”must be our tremendous capacity for compassion.” Our world had just witnessed a global outpouring of compassion for victims of the devastating quake in Haiti. It was clear that regardless of whatever the future holds, everything will be fine As long as there’s a struggling human heart, there will be another loving soul to embrace and pick up the pieces…something to rejoice in this wonderful time of mystery and renewal.
I would like to share this quote: “We need to teach the next generation of children from day one that they are responsible for their lives. Mankind’s greatest gift, also its greatest curse, is that we have free choice. We can make our choices built from love or from fear.” ~ Elizabeth Kubler Ross
We are all energy; we are all connected. We may feel separate at times but we are all connected. We feel both each other’s pain and each other’s happiness. Each moment we have an opportunity to create through this energy for us and for others. Action=Intention in motion. So, let’s align our Intentions and create action that benefits us all. I am honoured to be alive at this time of transition into a New Era. The coming years will bring us phenomena and changes that will be surprising, momentous, awesome and sacred. Many will be frightened, others will recognize the signs of the awakening of the World Soul. Stay attentive for opportunities to respond to the times, and for signs to play a role in bringing more Love to the world. As we all move into the year of the Water Dragon, let us embrace some of its predominant qualities.
- First, let us temper the fire and passion of our inner dragons with the wisdom of Water – being here now and always finding our way.
- Second, let us use the energy of the Stomach meridian, which relates to the Dragon in Chinese astrology, to digest our life experience.
- Finally, let us cooperate with each other and work together to care for Mother Earth so that She can continue to nurture us.
The Great Sage Dragon whether Eastern or Western is a master of mindfulness, an enduring symbol of serene patience. Utilize this year to build upon that foundation of wisdom and inner strength and emulate the Dragon’s courage in protecting that greatest of our treasures, loving kindness.
This year more than EVER, I invite you to follow your bliss, be true to your heart, slow down and listen to Mama Earth and all her creatures to manifest a greater than imagined journey through 2012. And sing love songs often, especially to yourself!
This New Year brings the gift of Prosperity, Good Health and Strength. How do you receive those gifts? Through inspiring others, Determination, Self Worth and Integrity.
Listen to your Body, Mind and Spirit. Allow yourself to slow down when you need time for you. You will be surprised how it can bring balance back into your life.
Make a point of saying aloud each kind thought that passes through your mind. You will be amazed at the changes that will take place.
As one born in the Year of the Rabbit, I am advised to plan what moves I will make and to prepare carefully in order to achieve my desired goals. Despite my inclination to act intuitively, I am admonished to avoid jumping to conclusions, to be sure to make enquiries first and to share my thoughts with others. I can only try.
Happy hopeful year of the dragon. Embrace differences, encourage each other, expand your love to include everyone and everything. And don’t use money to measure wealth!
Peace, Love and Harmony Sat Nam
Dakini Bliss
|
414 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
V-Somes |
| Published: 13 days ago [ submited by Avi Answers ] |
I recently got in a discussion with someone on the topic of “three-somes”. This was brought up because my work has recently started carrying a larger variety of guides and manuals on the art of multiple sex partner interactions. The person I was speaking to started telling me about how much she loved threesomes, so I asked bluntly if she had sexual interactions with all the participants, or was it a V-some? She wasn’t familiar with the term, and though I can’t remember where I originally adopted it from, I will share it with you.
V-Some: A sexual encounter where two partners focus on the third partner, but do not have any sexual interest/encounters with each other. For example, a version of a three-some that you may be familiar with is a guy and two girls, with the two girls servicing him. This would be considered a “v-some”, since the girls are not interacting with each other.
I don’t use this term to deny anyone the right to brag about their three-some experiences, but when I hear the term “three-some” I will assume that all partners are interacting in a pleasurable sexual manner with each other and are not just focused on one person. If someone uses the term “v-some” it makes it clearer to me in the story who is having sex with whom.
A fun technicality term for your multiple sex partner needs
|
422 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Sexy Humour…The Sex & Laughter Connection |
| Published: 13 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
 |
The SEX and LAUGHTER connection does exist in Tantra. Play, dance, meditate, and do simple Tantric/TAOist breathing techniques with the intention of learning how to laugh at a deep, level to ourselves so we can apply it to the intimacy with our partners; all with much LOVE and unconditional LAUGHTER. Some women can even enjoy LAUGTER orgasms, sometimes alone, or with their partners, with and without ejaculation, with and without sex, sometimes just laughing, dancing. Men can also have them if we are able to harmonize their Masculine & Femenine sides. We have the innate right and capability for the JOY of the Gods and Godesses. |
“Personally I know nothing about sex because I have always been married.”-Zsa Zsa Gabor
“The difference between pornography and erotica is lighting.”-Gloria Leonard
“There’s no shortage of pussy; it’s just the delivery system that’s messed up.”-Roy Schenk
“When the lights are out, all women are beautiful.”
“It’s all this cold-hearted fucking that is death and idiocy.”-D.H. Lawrence
“He who asks is a fool for 5 minutes, but he who does not remains a fool forever.” -Chinese Proverb
“It’s not true that sex degrades women, if it’s any good.”-Alan Partridge
“Sex is like a bridge game; if you don’t have a good partner, you better have a good hand.”
“Some mornings, it’s just not worth chewing through the leather straps.”-Emo Phillips
“Chastity is curable, if detected early.”
“The penis mightier than the sword.”-Mark Twain
“If you smoke after sex, you’re doing it too fast.”
“Sex is dirty only if it’s done right.” -Woody Allen
“Sex appeal is the keynote of our whole civilization.” -Henri Bergson
“No sex is better than bad sex.” -Germaine Greer
“My husband’s German. Every night I get dressed up as Poland and he invades me.” -Bette Midler
“Give a man free hands, and you’ll know where to find them.” -Mae West
“The art of life lies in taking pleasures as they pass, and the keenest pleasures are not intellectual, nor are they always moral.” -Aristippus
“Proof is arbitrary… unless we’re talking about sexual gratification.”
“Graze on my lips; and if those hills be dry, stray lower, where the pleasant fountains lie.” -William Shakespeare
“It’s the good girls that keep the diaries; the bad girls never have the time.” -Tallulah Bankhead
“Give me chastity and continence- but not yet.” -Saint Augustine
“Play with each other. Play with yourselves. Just don’t play with the squirrels, they bite.”
“I’d like to meet the person who invented sex and see what they’re working on now.”
“Whoever named it necking was a poor judge of anatomy.” -Groucho Marx
“Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation… The other eight are unimportant.” -Henry Miller
“If sex is such a natural phenomenon, how come there are so many books on how to do it?” -Bette Midler
“If God had intended us not to masturbate, He would have made our arms shorter.” -George Carlin
“In the nineteenth century masturbation was a disease; in the twentieth, it is a cure.”
“Love is not the dying moan of a distant violin- it’s the triumphant twang of a bedspring.” -S. J. Perelman
“It’s been so long since I made love, I can’t even remember who gets tied up.” -Joan Rivers
“From the moment I was six I felt sexy. And let me tell you it was hell, sheer hell, waiting to do something about it.” -Bette Davis
“Sex appeal is 50% what you’ve got and 50% what people think you’ve got.” -Sophia Loren
“Every so often, I try to masturbate a large word into conversation, even if I’m not really sure what it means.”
“The sex was so good that even the neighbours had a cigarette.”
“Sex multiplies the possibilities of desire.”
“Cunnilingus is next to godliness.”-Kali Nichta
“The web is a dominatrix. Every where I turn, I see little buttons ordering me to Submit.” -Nytwind
“Sex is a beautiful thing between two people. Between 5, it’s fantastic.”-Woody Allen
“The brain is viewed as an appendage of the genital glands.”-Carl Jung
“My brain is my second favorite organ.” -Woody Allen
“Apparently one can temporarily sterilize oneself by heating one’s organs in boiling water.” -Anonymous
“Some things are better than sex, some things worse, but nothing is exactly like it.” -W. C. Fields
“No one has ever died from an overdose of pornography.”-J. Money and P. Tucker
“It’ll be a sad day for sexual liberation when the pornography addict has to settle for the real thing.”-Brendan Francis
“A man must be potent and orgasmic to ensure the future of the race. A woman only needs to be available.”-Masters and Johnson
“Healthy, lusty sex is wonderful.”-John Wayne
“I have brains and a uterus, and I use both.”-Pat Schroeder
“Sexual intercourse is kicking death in the ass while singing.”-Charles Bukowski
“Censorship reflects society’s lack of confidence in itself.”-Potter Stewart
“It is better to be unfaithful than to be faithful without wanting to be.”-Brigitte Bardot
“An erection at will is the moral equivalent of a valid credit card.”-Alex comfort
“Sex is emotion in motion.”-Mae West
“The angle of the dangle is equally proportional to the heat of the meat provided that the urge to surge remains constant.”
“I consider sex a misdemenour, the more I miss, de meaner I get.” -Mae West
“Masturbation is like procrastination, it’s all good until you realize you are only fucking yourself.”
“Hacking is like sex. You get in, you get out, and hope that you didn’t leave something that can be traced back to you.”
“Sex is not the answer. Sex is the question. Yes is the answer.”
“I am a man of few words and 1,000 obscene gestures.”
Only the free wish to find their destiny, those who are jailed have found it.
“If God had intended us not to masturbate, He would have made our arms shorter.” -George Carlin
|
519 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Women, are your ready for Love? |
| Published: 13 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
Love is a word that’s far too big for itself. We limit it to the a romantic vision that has been spoonfed to us since adolescence, but it’s so much more. It’s colorful, vibrant in every living thing. Expressive, unending, non-judgmental. Love doesn’t choose to give itself to you above anyone else…or anyone else above you. Love shines like the Sun on all of us.
How long have you been waiting for love… the right partner or people in your life to change. Are you always waiting for the right moment? A day…1 week…6 months…10 years?
How much longer will you wait? Will you go to your grave never having opened fully to love because you were waiting?
Love is hungry for you. It’s just waiting for you to put down your sword. Take a big deep breath, notice it all around you.
We have become de-sensitized to love.
We have been taught that it should have a particular look, come at a certain time, in exactly the right package,.
Watch ANY romantic comedy to get clear on what it’s supposed to look like for you.
If it doesn’t conform, then you’re out of luck….No love for you.
You get to be that funny, pathetic character devouring a gallon of ice cream home alone. Meanwhile, your girlfriends get to live the divine romance.
If you are unaware of love’s rich rays, you are sabotaging your life and your right to be happy.
Try this:
Go for a walk somewhere wild.
Sit down surrounded by nature.
Allow yourself to be receptive to the sensations of the world around you.
The earth holding you, the sun caressing you, the trees vibrating around you.
Imagine yourself reaching out to send love to the environment.
Then return to the receptivity, allow the space to send love back to you.
Notice what you feel.
As with all Tantric practice, give it a try and see what awakens within you.
Are you ready to permit yourself to awaken to the love that’s here now?
Then come join me at a Tantric Massage Session.
I will hold your hand as you begin to wake up to what has always been there.
Had you known that this was accessible to you no matter what, there would be nothing to drive you to be a seeker?
Something to think about…
|
464 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
SEXUAL HEALING AND TANTRA TESTIMONIALS |
| Published: 14 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
Testimonials
My dearest Dakini,
It has been a month since we met and you assisted my wife Maryse and me through an amazing 3-hour session. The consultation relaxed us and made us feel at home in no time. You gave Maryse the information to help her let go of her painful past and live and love in the present.
She has been very, very impressed with the results and what her body can do for her when she allows these things to happen. She was smiling for days on end following our session. For this, we will both be forever grateful for your time and talents.
Thanks again, we are well on our way to happiness and loving each other more than ever. We plan on continuing this journey and will update you in our progress. Until next time, Thank you so much.
Paul, Kingston
*****
 |
|
…Never in my life have I been so deeply met and seen, with no agenda!
I had the space to see parts of me that I hadn’t seen or known, and to explore what I was afraid to on my own. You were not afraid of my fear. You held a space of allowance for me to be just as I am.
|
Words cannot describe what has happened for me other than calling it a miracle
Since then, in the last 72 hours, my relationship with my beloved has completely altered. Now I am authentic, I have put out more love and a new level of energy to people with positive effects! And I have decided to resign from a sales job that I hated but met my financial needs. I was hoping to find a new sales team that would allow me to work at something that I genuinely enjoy doing.
Then I received a voicemail from an old college buddy asking for my help in starting up a dynamic new national sales organization.. It looks like I will be starting in two weeks.
Blessings have been showering upon me over the last three days.
I will never be able to truly express my gratitude sufficiently to you most of all, but I will try.
Thank you very much Dakini
Mike – Vancouver
*****
You are the most luscious! I so enjoy and appreciate our time together. Thank you for being with me on my journey. Your wisdom, guidance, and TOUCH! were magnificent. The whole experience was profound. I look forward to more time/energy together soon.
Until our next time……..take good care.
Cheers
Frank – Toronto
********
I just wanted to follow up now that I am back home. I am tired and yet full of energy.
I am so appreciative of the session with you. You are more beautiful than I was expecting throughout your whole self. I loved your energy, sense of fun and playfulness, exploration and the delightfully whimsical way you brought me the core learning and information – presented more as an offer, an invitation, than a demand! Thank you for honoring me with your trust and connection.
The experience has stayed with me. I am now more open, aware and connected to what’s going on around me. Most of all the energy that was built is still with me even with the tiredness.
I truly hope that there will be another opportunity to work together again soon.
Rod-New York
********
Although all my instincts trusted your mastery of energy and integrity, I didn’t trust my own instincts in this area. Relaxing my energy and letting my sexual energy reach out to you seemed like the most careless, irresponsible behavior possible on my part…no matter how reassuring you were.
Imagine my surprise, Dakini, to discover for the first time in my life that I can be safe in the expression of my sexual energy and in the vulnerability of ecstasy. The more I relax into our container expecting it to shatter, the more I find myself supported. I wish I could say the same for my experience in the rest of the world. As I find myself opening up energetically, I find myself running into familiar scenarios. Such are the lessons that make me realize the incredible blessing of our work together.
Being a perfectionist with exacting standards, I often forget to express praise. I want you to know how deeply grateful I am to the universe for the experience of you. I’ve never known anyone quite like you. You are amazing. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate that you have always been so energetically and emotionally clear, open and honest with me.
I will be back next month and will call soon to book.
Jim-Montreal
******
Thank you for your magic, love, blessings, healing and unconditional acceptance. You are truly special, and I felt very special with you. Like I have never felt with another woman. It was surely the high play I had hoped for.
My time with you felt “other worldly”. When I think about walking down that third floor hallway with what seemed like a hundred doors, and I knocked on one with no number and was greeted and received by you, a radiant, magical, mystical beauty, I knew I was surely in sacred space and time. I realized yesterday that I had spent that whole day in anonymity, which is very rare for me. It just added to my sense that I had visited a very distant land.
Back to earth… thank you for breathing life back into me. I am carrying your breath, it’s still warming me, softening and opening my heart. I have shared that breath with others in new and subtle ways already. Like a word of encouragement, the gift of a flower, any gesture of kindness….. The part of me that can’t just live in this moment and enjoying what we shared is already trying to arrange to share breath with you again in the future
Sam–Boston
|
534 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Naked Tantric Meditation and YOU |
| Published: 14 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
Meditation…the most misunderstood concept within the realm of spiritual practice. Many “teach” meditation as a powerful process that enlightens conscious awareness, leading us into a more peaceful, compassionate society.
Many experts teach the principles of meditation but these
Meditation techniques require a great deal of effort.
Ajahn Brahmavamso, in his pamphlet, “The Basic Method of Meditation” writes the following:
“Often with meditation there will be some hard work at the beginning…”
“The goal of meditation…”
“Meditation is the way to achieve letting go.”
This pamphlet is full of such assertions and statements. Goals, achievements and effort all run contrary to the character of meditative thought.
The truth is that effort is antithesis of meditation. Meditation is a natural character of thought. Indeed, the state of meditation requires an open and empty conscious awareness. Any effort to empty the consciousness requires a method and any method requires learning and knowledge, which clutters the consciousness with even more content.
Masters,mystics, and gurus exist in a state of meditative thought. The commentary, judgments, categorizations, justifications, identifications, and rest of the constant mind chatter str absent from their thought processes. This is actually the natural state of the mind, the most natural state of thought.
Meditative thought is open, receiving, embracing, and creatively intelligent. This is also the character of thought experienced when we were children, prior to the conditioning that initiated the development of the unconscious mind that produces all the ceaseless chatter.
When perceived stimuli are received in this state of meditation, a creative, intelligent response is possible. The meditative state precludes judgment, categorizations, past knowledge and experience, future expectations, and a host of other mental noise. No one can teach another how to “achieve” this state of mind, as it is much more like opening doors.
In William Blake’s poem, “The Marriage of Heaven and Hell” he wrote:
If the doors of perception were cleansed everything would appear to man as it is, infinite.
For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things thro’ narrow chinks of his cavern.
As Blake suggests, this state of mind now referred to as “meditation” i opens the doors of perception. The natural state of these doors is open; we actually expend energy to close them. How do you learn anything without further cluttering the mind with more of the basis of this clutter of content? You simply do not. Meditation is not something you learn, nor “practice” nor exert any effort toward. Anything learned or practiced tends to reinforce the programmed awareness, closing the doors that must be resolved and dissolved before a meditative state of consciousness is possible.

To enter into a meditative state, you must first realize that there is absolutely nothing to achieve, any striving to achieve anything misses the point entirely. There is a “way” to “enter” the state of meditative thought. That “way” is to focus thought and being on the present moment. There is only one “way” to focus thought on the present moment and that is to realize when you are not. The more you are aware of when you are not in the present moment, the less you disperse your energy into the past and future.
The conditioning of the mind hampers the natural, meditative character of thought. This conditioning occurs through parents, teachers, religious instruction, the media, past experience, and language. The conditioned mind tends to be in conflict with the beingness or body of the individual. This conflict manifests in many ways, like when we are angry and we think we “should not” be angry, or when we feel like dancing or singing but believe it to be inappropriate. The conflict also manifests as desire for some future happiness or avoidance of some past trauma, or future undesirable events.
This conditioning “splits” the mind from the body or beingness of the individual. The split mind must create its own identity, one that many of us totally identify with, and it loses the natural association with the integrated body of the individual. The tendency to think of our selves as a body and mind is also a manifestation of this split.
The Tao Te Ching Chapter 13:
One’s true self is eternal
And yet one thinks, “I am this body, I will soon die”
This false sense of self Is the cause of all problems
In order to further complicate, we construct other entities such as a spirit or a soul. In fact these segregations do not add to the enlightened conscious awareness that we all would benefit from, both individually and in our society. The “method” to achieve the meditative state is often one in which the split mind is seen as a pseudo identity. When we re-integrate our beingness, there’s no need for the otherwise threatened mind to keep up the constant stream of chatter.
When mind and body are re-united the clutter of content is no longer necessary. Enhanced awareness is the key to spiritual growth. Observation of self is the process by which we enhance our awareness. When you observe the programming and conditioning of the mind and the conflict it causes, the split mind pseudo identity loses its power over your being.
Then the “spell” is broken
********
submitted by Shambala, 2012
|
499 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Living the Tantric Dream |
| Published: 14 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
What if there was nothing you needed to do. What would you then do?
Ponder this Question and allow yourself to feel what your life would be like if you had all the support needed to achieve your greatest potential and highest dream in life.
**What would it look like? **Would you be home more? **Would you travel to those exotic parts of the world you had only dreamed of? **Would you share more time with your friends and loved ones?
When you dare to feel again, touching your truest life desires, the feelings themselves will activate you to once again sense that it can be done.
Take small steps to bring more of what really matters into your life. You will recognize those things that sing to your soul.
You can do it! Step by step, you can bring it all into form and fruition.
Bliss & Blessings
Dakini…The Tantric Touch
|
|
484 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Eye of the Newt: a Reluctant Polyamorist |
| Published: 14 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
When Newt Gingrich’s second ex-wife Marianne Gingrich spoke on ABC’s “Nightline”, she created the worst poster boy ever for the polyamory movement. The former Mrs. Gingrich said that Newt asked her for an open marriage when he revealed that for six years he had been sleeping with Callista Bisek, who later became his third wife. “He said, ‘Callista doesn’t care what I do,’” Marianne said in the interview. “He wanted an open marriage and I refused. But It’s no surprise that a conservative politician and engaged in multiple affairs and violated his marriage vows, despite having publicly lambasted President Bill Clinton for his White House affair. The only real surprise is that he wasn’t having a homosexual affair.
 |
The Gingrich open-marriage story is creating a huge public opportunity to discuss ethical, successful non-monogamy.
|
Sara Taub and Michael Rios of the Polyamory Institute said: “Successful open relationships are consensual and based on trust, mutual respect and lots of communication. It’s very difficult (though not impossible) for a cheater to ‘come clean’ and create an open marriage with his or her spouse, because the initial situation is inherently non-consensual and trust has already been broken. Some extraordinary people can make it work, but the cheater must have a huge amount of humility, patience and respect for the other partner, including respecting his or her right to say ‘no.’ This is not how Marianne Gingrich described Newt Gingrich’s approach.”
“Open marriages are consensual, honest and based in love. Saying ‘let me have an affair or I’m going to divorce you’ is not consensual — it’s coercive…. If Gingrich had approached his wife with his feelings beforehand, perhaps she would have said, ‘yes, well, actually I’ve been thinking about that possibility myself,’ and then they could have honestly had a healthy, open marriage. But what we’re hearing about is an affair that started in deception and ended in coercion — and that’s neither loving, nor honest, nor consensual. It’s not an open marriage or polyamory by any stretch of the imagination.”
Other bastions of the poly movement are getting airtime as well: The BBC is running an article on its website featuring PLN mainstay Anita Wagner Illig and open-relationship book authors Tristan Taormino and Jenny Block, with pictures of each, plus poly-doyenne Deborah Anapol — you can read it at:
Gingrich wasn’t denying that he had a 6-year-long adulterous relationship with a Congressional staffer – a woman 20 years his junior and an affair that he conducted while impeaching Bill Clinton after his affair with a White House intern. All Gingrich was denying with that “false!” was the allegation that he had asked his second ex-wife for an open marriage.
The moral of the story…An honest open relationship is more politically damaging than a dishonest adulterous relationship, so the scandal is helping Newt.
|
471 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
| 0 |
  |
|
Tantra in Married Life |
| Published: 14 days ago [ submited by Dakini Bliss ] |
Can you accelerate your tantric evolution as an active family member?
Tantra supports acceptance, living life fully, without negating or rejecting a thing.
If one is destined to reach the highest point of life, whatever he does is a part of yoga. One who has no interest in discovering the soul essence, experiencing self-realization or knowing the truth does not progress. Indeed, the purpose of life itself only matters. If I travel to New York City, whatever road I take, food I eat or people I talk to doesn’t matter, as long as I fulfil my aim to get there.
One must have a commited aim and the courage to follow it through consistently. In this way, you can evolve whether you live in a spiritual community or with your own family.
What happens when the practice of yoga reveals that marriage is just a social institution?
We have forgotten the spiritual purpose of this union so the man-woman relationship has become socialized into the marital roles of husband and wife. In yoga and in Tantra, man and woman are brought together for the fulfillment of something greater.
In the creation of nature, man and woman complement each other’s spiritual evolution. What transpires between them is a necessary corollary to spiritual life. The process of coming together, living together, sexually interacting and meditating together is vital for human evolution. Therefore, it is time to replace the terms ‘husband’ and ‘wife’ as these words merely represent a legal situation. Use them if you wish, but the spiritual situation is more significant.
Where does man stand in relation to woman? The relationship is purely spiritual, not for progeny or pleasure alone. Progeny is the byproduct of an accident, and you can avoid that accident if you like. Pleasure is a limited aspect of their coming together. The awakening of Kundalini and the higher vision, which results from this awakening, is the ultimate purpose for man and woman coming, living, working and striving together. You use the word ‘couple’. The exact translation for this in Sanskrit is Maithuna. When two are together, it is called Maithuna
Jealousy of yoga can arise in married couples when one practices and the other does not. How can we address this problem?
In order to realize the vision of yoga, you do not have to step out of the threshold of married life. If two partners are unable to understand each other, there’s still a way. In the path of Tantra, the husband and wife are considered as Shiva and Shakti. Therefore, keeping this relationship in view, the two partners can definitely continue their spiritual life while living at home.
If the husband practices yoga, he wants his wife to do so, and vice versa. But if one practices and the other does not, they will have problems. In family life, the’ relationship between the two partners is paramount.
If it is impossible for the wife to convince her man in terms of hatha yoga, she needs to find other ways of practicing yoga with him.For this purpose, the science of Tantra was founded.
Tantra is not difficult. Ultimately you will find it is a part of your culture. It is only Tantra that accepts all aspects of life as a part of your great pilgrimage. Tantra alone sees a spiritual purpose and a great meaning in all these things. So, it is well-suited for those of the modern age. You have been living the life of a Tantric without knowing it. You just have to realize it, accept it, and perhaps give it some pruning and modifying. You don’t have to destroy the present structure of your life, you can build up your spiritual life around it.
How can I carry out my familial duties with detachment?
The path of Tantra accepts man’s most basic urge, sexual activity, as a way to spiritual illumination. In Tantra, the two partners are known as Shiva and Shakti. Shiva means consciousness, purusha; Shakti means energy, prakriti. In the scheme of creation, Shakti is the main executive; Shiva is detached. He is a silent witness to the whole game of creation. In the same manner, in the interaction between Shiva and Shakti, it is much wiser and more scientific that Shakti becomes the active participant. Then Shiva remains a silent witness and spectator of the whole game. If Shiva becomes active in this game, he is the loser; and likewise, if Shakti is suppressed and becomes passive, then both are at a loss. Therefore, in maithuna, Shakti is the active partner and Shiva is the passive partner.
In the path of progeny, man is the active participant; woman is only the tool. In the path of pleasure, Shiva is the enjoyer; Shakti is the tool. In both of these, Shakti takes the inferior position and Shiva becomes superior. However, this is unnatural because the whole creation is a miracle of Shakti, not of Shiva. Shiva never participates in creation. Shakti holds the superior position in the scheme of creation. Similarly, in the path of Tantra, Shakti should hold the superior position and Shiva should only participate. That is the natural way. If this Tantra is properly practiced, family life will improve and the rate of separation will come down.
What aboutTantric practices for married couples?
Vajroli and sahajoli are practiced by couples who want to improve and spiritualize their marital relationship. Vajroli is the practice for males, which gives control over vajra nadi, the nerve centre responsible for sexual passion. Vajra nadi is the conductor of semen. It is comprised of two nerves, which pass from the genital organ, down both sides of the groin into the testicles, where they stimulate production of testosterone. Testosterone maintains male sexual function and also stimulates the heart. So, by controlling the vajra nadi, you can control the semen and the heart also.
Vajroli is practiced in padmasana or siddhasana. While retaining the breath in jalandhara bandha, contract the genital area, including testicles, genitals and vajra nadi. During the practice, the bladder and kidneys are also contracted.
When ejaculation takes place during the sexual act, the vajra nadi is filled with blood and vajroli mudra takes place spontaneously, just for a few moments, even if you are not aware of it. But those who have mastered vajroli can control the ejaculation so that it only occurs when they choose, or does not occur at all.
After ejaculation there is a drop in the energy level and depression in the nervous system. But if there is no ejaculation, the energy level remains high, nervous depression does not occur, and the blood pressure level remains steady. At the same time, you will be free from the sense of loss, depression, frustration and guilt. Sexual life is not a cause of weakness. If practiced correctly, it brings about a great awakening of energy.
In Tantra, the experience of energy explosion at the sexual peak has to be controlled. As long as the experience continues, you can direct it to the higher centres. In vajroli the experience takes place in the brain, not in the lower organs. The purpose of vajroli is to maintain this experience for as long as possible without ejaculation. At the peak of sexual interaction, kundalini is awakened.
In yoga, sexual life is not practiced for any other purpose except samadhi. If that purpose is kept in mind, samadhi becomes the goal, sexual life the act, and yoga the technique.
Sahajoli is the parallel practice for females. Sahajoli is performed in siddha yoni asana. While retaining the breath, the vaginal muscles and urethra are contracted and drawn up. The contraction is like trying to hold back from urinating. At this time, the uterus, bladder and kidneys are also contracted.
Are preparatory practices necessary?
Vajroli and sahajoli should not be practised directly. First you must master kumbhaka, uddiyana bandha and siddhasana. A few asanas like vajrasana should also be practised, as they place an automatic contraction on the genital region. When you practise paschimottanasana and hold it for several minutes, you prepare the body for uddiyana bandha. In siddhasana you press the perineum with the heel so that a slight contraction of mooladhara and vajra nadi takes place automatically. Sirshasana is most important because it circulates the blood in the brain.
How do I overcome feelings of guilt?
You cannot get rid of guilt just through self-analysis. Unless your mind has undergone a change, freedom from guilt is not possible. Guilt is at the root of most humans. Our behaviour, relationships and ambitions are guided by the sense of guilt in us. Just because you practice yoga does not mean that you will become free from guilt. When you come to yoga, you still have the notion of good and bad, pure and impure. Those who come to yoga with a free mind, without any notion of duality, of good and evil, perhaps they may be able to eliminate this guilt.
How does a yogi combine family life with spiritual life?
History is full of yogis who have combined both these aspects, and of others who have renounced it.
Lord Krishna, the Lord of Yoga, was married eight times. Rama, the great disciplinarian, was also married with children. Lord Shiva, who presides over the yogic consciousness in the east and west today, was married. Tantra itself is the offshoot of Lord Shiva’s true story. Many great yogis have enjoyed a full married life.
But Lord Buddha renounced his wife, family and kingdom to become a yogi, as did many others. Shankaracharya renounced and became a sannyasin at age seven. He never married. Once during his discussions with a great Indian scholar of Vedanta philosophy, he was questioned about the science of sexuality. Shankaracharya could reply to all questions, and the great scholar could not match him.
So Bharati, the wife of this great scholar, came and said to Shankaracharya: ‘You have defeated my husband, now you have to tackle this problem.’ She questioned him about sexual life, which knew nothing about. So Shankaracharya asked her for time to prepare himself.
The story goes that he went to his disciples and through his yogic powers left his body and entered the body of a dead king. On the same day, the ‘king’ came back to life and they brought him from the cremation ground to
The body of Shankaracharya was lying all this time in a cave with his disciples, but Shankaracharya became so engrossed in his life with the queen that he forgot to return to his own body. Ultimately, the soldiers of that state came so close to discovering the dead body that his disciples invoked the mantra which he had taught them in case of any delay, and brought him back to life.
After this he held discussions with Bharati and defeated her also on all matters relating to sexual topics. Both Bharati and her husband became two of the four chief disciples of Shankaracharya.
From the lives of past and present yogis, we see that a life of sexual abstention can only be decided upon by an overwhelming desire for an experience of higher consciousness. Otherwise, it is useless to consider either abstaining or indulging. If you indulge in sex, there will be no difference between you and a yogi in relation to spiritual progress. At the same time, if you refrain, it is like pulling the tail of an elephant.
You need tremendous passion to divert your mind from the lesser one. Suppose you are in battle, guns and cannons shooting. In the midst of it, you meet an attractive woman. Will you take an interest in her, or just ignore her and carry on fighting? When hate-filled passions are flying high, you are onl interested in fighting for your life. At a point in your life when you experience passions higher than sex, you may try abstention. Otherwise don’t do it. Rather, finish it off and transcend it.
Unless you have a greater passion, you cannot transcend this lower passion. Until you have discovered this greater passion within you, just lead a normal married life.
What if one has a higher passion but still has an animal body?
If you have higher passions, you will never think about the physical. Like one consumed by a greater mission, he is unaware of what clothes he puts on in the morning or where he sleeps at night. A mission-minded man with a higher passion is totally unaware of the lower fulfilments. It is only this man who can think about abstention. Otherwise, all yoga practitioners should lead a life according to the laws of nature, without resistance. If you have to live in a river, don’t antagonize the crocodile.
********** Submitted by Shambala, 2012
|
507 views |
 Processing your request, Please wait....
|
|
|